I know how the title sounds but I don’t mean I resent the child at all.
My partner has a 4 year old DS, and we’ve got a 6 month old baby together.
My partner hasn’t helped with our baby, but is extremely hands on with his son when he stays every week. I’ve asked for him to be more inclusive of our baby and show the same love and affection to him as he does his older child yet he still isn’t doing so. It has improved slightly recently but it’s still not the same between the two and his eldest is now seeming to pick up on the fact he is “favourite”.
Because of this behaviour from my partner, I dread his son coming to our house and when he is here, I count down the days until he leaves again which I’m aware sounds cruel as it’s not his fault but it’s hard to see your child being left out and not loved equally. I feel I’ve totally lost the bond I had with my SS, he feels like a stranger when he’s here, but I can’t stop myself from feeling how I do. Any advice how to stop “blaming” the child?? (internally, of course I’d never say anything to him!)
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Firsttimemum0558 · 24/02/2024 20:00
lunar1 · 24/02/2024 21:42
It's easy isn't it, to put the blame on an innocent child, rather than being a grownup and dealing with your shit.
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