So WWYD?

[Pebblesnose]

I saw on another thread a poster saying you shouldn't become a step parent without having a discussion about what you'd do if both parents were unable to look after the DC.

It got me thinking because I've never had a discussion with DH about what would happen with DSC if he were to pass away or some other reason he may be unable to care for DSC.

I think anyone who'd just take on DSC too without a thought is a saint tbh but I don't think I could do it personally.

Mine are older now and don't live with us. Neither DH or his ex have siblings and GP's were old/distant. I think that I would have kept them! Not sure where else they could have gone.

This is interesting.... my SD 16 lives with her dad and me full time ana has for a year and a half with pretty much no contact with mum bar the few texts per week.

I know she's almost an adult but as we all know teens needs a lot more support and places to live well into 20s now.

If my DH god forbid suddenly passed the i really don't know what I would do. I don't think I would want her to continue living here full time with sole responsibility on me as her mum doesn't contribute at all.... I have my own son to fend for.

I of course would also keep a relationship and bond but I mean taking on her full responsibility seems very daunting If my partner was no longer here. The again I know she wouldn't ever go back to her mums so would probably have an option of a auntie that's it or something drastic like living alone! ( FYI I wouldn't let that happen of course not)

This has brought up an interesting topic for me though hopefully that never crops up!!

This is DEFINITELY a conversation that's needed as part of wills etc!

I know someone this happened to, sadly. His step children lived with him and his wife full time as their dad had died years before. Then his wife, their mum, sadly died about 7 years after their dad. The step kids stayed with him, he very much wanted them to as he’d brought them up from very young and as he had children that were their siblings he wanted them to stay together.

Very sad situation and I imagine quite rare.