Been with my partner for over 6 years now, he has a 12y who I adore and we have a toddler. Xmas plans have always been that we pick him up at tea time on Xmas day despite us asking lots of times to have him Xmas eve and Xmas day and drop him off Xmas tea time but never been allowed. He’s now asked what the plans are for Xmas. I said that probably would be the same as always, his reply was “it’s only been like that since you’ve been here” which was quite hurtful but not the point and also not true. His mum now wants us to have him Xmas eve evening and Xmas day I’m assuming because she’s now got a new baby. It’s frustrating because we’ve always wanted to have him but I feel now it’s been dictated and I don’t like it and not only that we’ve already planned our Xmas around picking him up at 4 which is a pain anyways so now will have to change everything around again! And not only that, to be perfectly honest it’s our toddlers first Xmas they will understand and having a teenager in tow when doing the things we have planned for the day I know will really annoy him cos he won’t want to do it and our toddler will. I know the last bit probs make me an ah but I just hate being dictated to especially when it always us doing the car journeys and pick ups Etc. There a lot more to the story and don’t really wanna get into it. I just wanna know if I’m being unreasonable considering it’s been the same for 12 years. Of course we want to have him, he’s our son but seems it always on his mums terms