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They've gone on holiday

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Hollll · 12/08/2022 15:42

DSC have gone on holiday today for two whole weeks and I'm so relieved (usually have 50:50 so they've gone over our time too).

Two whole weeks.

Anyone else feel like this? I'm sure DH will mope a little bit but I'm just so glad to not have the additional work / effort hassle for two whole weeks. Their mum is mainly a fucking nightmare so I'm very much including her in that.

It's honestly my favourite part of the summer. 2 weeks where no one is fannying about with ever changing contact, Disney parenting, a moody teen pulling their face at everything. Lovely.

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Hollll · 12/08/2022 15:44

And most importantly 2 weeks of my DCs lives not having to revolve around DSCs schedule.

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OhJanet · 12/08/2022 15:56

Enjoy! Feet up with a glass of whatever takes your fancy. Cheers Smile

Christmasiscominghohoho · 12/08/2022 16:42

Hollll · 12/08/2022 15:44

And most importantly 2 weeks of my DCs lives not having to revolve around DSCs schedule.

Genuine question but why do you put up with this?

I do what I want with my DC regardless of my step daughter being over.

Christmasiscominghohoho · 12/08/2022 16:42

Enjoy the peace though 🍷

Bluub · 12/08/2022 17:42

I love it. And then I also enjoy it when they are here for two weeks.

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Hollll · 12/08/2022 17:53

Bluub · 12/08/2022 17:42

I love it. And then I also enjoy it when they are here for two weeks.

You're a better person than me then. I dread it 😂

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Hollll · 12/08/2022 17:54

Christmasiscominghohoho · 12/08/2022 16:42

Genuine question but why do you put up with this?

I do what I want with my DC regardless of my step daughter being over.

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It's not even that tbh, I do do what I want with my DC.

But it's the whole royalty have arrived routine and the constant swapping and changing days and DHs attention being pulled all over. It's all so much calmer and more relaxed when they aren't here.

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Artesia · 12/08/2022 17:57

Your husband actually giving attention to his own children? Gosh yes, can see why that would be bad

NashvilleQueen · 12/08/2022 17:58

I don't know. I started off feeling this was an understandable reaction to a break but now I'm not so sure. It sounds a little as though you resent them for existing.

I'm sure it's just the exuberance talking.

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Hollll · 12/08/2022 18:04

Artesia · 12/08/2022 17:57

Your husband actually giving attention to his own children? Gosh yes, can see why that would be bad

Obviously very normal, very good. But still nice to have a break and just be us sometimes.

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lookluv · 12/08/2022 20:04

You resent your partner having his attention pulled to his children.

Think that says more about you than anyone else.

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Hollll · 12/08/2022 20:09

lookluv · 12/08/2022 20:04

You resent your partner having his attention pulled to his children.

Think that says more about you than anyone else.

Nope. Don't resent it. Just nice to have a break and it just be us for a couple of weeks.

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CandyLeBonBon · 12/08/2022 20:13

Do you have kids of your own op?

abblie · 12/08/2022 20:14

Wow the award for wicked step mother of the year goes to 🤣🤣🤣

Bluub · 12/08/2022 20:54

Hollll · 12/08/2022 17:53

You're a better person than me then. I dread it 😂

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I do go into the office full time those weeks mind ☺️

Bluub · 12/08/2022 20:55

Hollll · 12/08/2022 20:09

Nope. Don't resent it. Just nice to have a break and it just be us for a couple of weeks.

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Yes a break is nice

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Hollll · 12/08/2022 21:40

CandyLeBonBon · 12/08/2022 20:13

Do you have kids of your own op?

Yes

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Hollll · 12/08/2022 21:41

abblie · 12/08/2022 20:14

Wow the award for wicked step mother of the year goes to 🤣🤣🤣

Because I enjoy a couple of weeks without them? Boohoo 😂

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HandbagsnGladrags · 12/08/2022 21:45

Ahhhhhh bliss!! Enjoy it. My SS's mother takes him fucking nowhere. However he's going home tomorrow after 3 nights. Can't wait to have my house to myself.

toomuchlaundry · 12/08/2022 21:45

Do you have joint DC?

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Hollll · 12/08/2022 21:55

toomuchlaundry · 12/08/2022 21:45

Do you have joint DC?

Yes.

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Hollll · 12/08/2022 21:56

I only have joint DC. No other DC from any previous relationships.

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Christmasiscominghohoho · 12/08/2022 22:05

I don’t blame you for enjoying the time.

My step daughter only comes around Eow and I much prefer life in general on the weekends when she’s not here.

TwoBulletsFiveZombies · 12/08/2022 22:11

I'd feel the same, would love a 2 week break. Enjoy it!

templesit · 12/08/2022 23:11

Sounds great.

I remember loving half terms as dsc's mum would fully palm them off with grandparents as much as she could in school holidays- win win for me.

Didn't dislike dsc but all the 'make sure they feel great every second' was a bit much.