My DP and I recently got engaged. We have a very good relationship with his ex-wife and have their two children 50/50. I like her and I think she likes me too.
Just heard from a friend that she recently told them that she has regrets about their marriage ending and that she misses him. Backstory is she broke up their marriage whilst pregnant because she felt he was 'boring'. Absolutely broke his heart. It has impacted on him hugely and he misses his kids so much when he does not get to see them for half the week. She has stayed single as far as I know.
We got together and I cannot put into words how much I love him. He is not even remotely 'boring' (whatever that means). He is the most wonderful, stable, kind and reliable partner and father and I cannot believe how lucky I am to have such a person as my fiancé. I think he feels the same. He says he does. I hope he does.
Despite the fact that I think I feel very secure in a solid, happy relationship, I know that it was not his choice to end their marriage. He had been happy until she called it quits. I know he misses his kids. I don't think he would ever go back even if she did ask, but I can't help but feel sad and upset that she is now saying this. I wish my friend had never told me. I'd like to think his ex did not intend for this to ever get back to either me or DP. We have a good relationship, but I feel so angry at her (probably unfair as she has not said this to either of us at present). I am angry at my friend for telling me. I am annoyed at myself for feeling insecure when DP has never given me any reason to be.
Any advice?