Partners ex

[MumOfTwo524]

So. I've been with my partner for about 18 months and have gained two step daughters (I have two girls of my own). My partner moved in with us January this year, ever since he's moved in with me, the mother of his children would cause problems such as: telling the children to say I've touched them wrong, stealing things I would let her children borrow such as mine and my daughters lunch boxes bags shoes etc, tried to get in between our relationship (telling me lies about my partner), one day we even had to call the police on her after she turned up at our home demanding her ddaughter despite it being dads set day. Anyway my eldest and her youngest are in the same class at school, over the last couple of months I have noticed her infiltrating my friendship groups and trying hard to make friends with my mum friends from school. It's been a bit upsetting but I've tried to ignore it and ignore the people that have been a bit two faced by being friendly with her, why would I want them as friends anyway? Now, what I have noticed in the last couple of weeks is that she has started dressing like me!!! She has completely changed her style and is wearing almost identical outfits that I wear!! Its really winding me up but I feel like I can't speak to anyone as I'll sound petty, does anyone think they know why she might be doing this? She isn't trying to be friends with me as I've given opportunities for that in the past and she still had to act up. Do you think she wants my partner back or what? She had multiple affairs which is why they broke up so I'm not sure, I just don't understand why she is copying my style it's so creepy. HELP what do I do I feel like she's obsessed with me tell me I'm wrong please

That a lot of drama and stuff in such a small time frame.

Honestly no man is worth drama your 24 with a 5 and 2 year old and moved in with a new man after such a short space of time and now making a big deal that if this one doesn’t work you won’t date again.

Date but your children don’t have to be moved in or even meet the date so fast.

I’d cut and run and spend time fixing you.

I think if a school dad split from a mum and went out with a other school mum it will be juicy gossip. They probably look for the three if you to see if their is any drama.

How did you get together? Did you chat at the school gates then he asked you out? I can't imagine that happening really. How long had you known him before you got together? Did you know the ex before you got with him? Was she ok with you then?

Are you saying you've had 3 relationships in 5 years or is the other relationship your daughter has seen the one with her dad?

Did you move in with him or did he move in with you?

Where were you both living before you got together?

How long were they separated before you were a couple?

We're your kids friends before?

So many questions.

I know people are fairly interested in OPs love life history and asking fairly pointed questions on how many people has she dated in a short timescale, introduced to her children, timescales of historic partners.

Thing is isn't not relevant to OPs current situation with her current partner other than a way to bash her. She openly admits that's she's made relationship mistakes that if this one doesn't work out she be repeating the cycle again and repeatedly keep being men into the kids life. Its clear she hasn't had the best judgment in the past but she's already recognised it to a degree in the posts, I'm pretty sure everyone has at some point made these types of mistakes. So can we stop, it's pretty transparent of where it's going.

OP needs to slow down with current partner, separate the homes, and not fall down this rush into relationships for her own children sake but also her own. Maybe get some counselling into why this pattern keeps happening and how to work on fixing it.

Yes sorry about the questions. But I do think they are relevant to why the ex may feel as she does but quite rightly you haven't answered.

I’m not sure it matters why the ex feels as she does. She’s behaving poorly and the OP has to try to not have that harm her children and herself regardless what the woman’s motivations are.