Hi all. My mental health is destroyed. This is such a long story that will have to be condensed. Pleased feel free to ask further questions. I looked after my step-children for 4 and a half years and have honestly tried my best to be their friends and looked after them as a parent as they lived with me and their father. I encountered regular hostility and put downs from my step-daughter about me and my daughter (she is by no means perfect) and felt so excluded and after 4 years I told my partner that it would be best if we live in our own accommodation as I couldn’t take it anymore. He tried talking to her and communicating with her to no avail and she continued to be hostile and also violent towards my daughter. I wanted to sell our home but my partner decided to ask her to leave and live with her alcoholic mother which I don’t feel was the correct move and within a week he asked her to move back home. She refused and we suggested family therapy of which she refused. On two occasions I returned home to find her at home visiting her brother and she refused to acknowledge me. When asked what she had against me she would refuse to answer and leave. She has been gone nearly a year with no contact. I have messaged her on occasion to attempt talking to me to sort things out but she ignores my messages. She has also started to ignore her father on occasion but he feels extremely guilty of this and starts sending her photos of where he is going to take her on holiday when she ignores him. I feel that this is such a wrong move but he harbours a lot of guilt that he sent her to live with an alcoholic mother, even though it was the view of it being temporary. I argued with him today telling him I felt that he was unbelievable in inviting her on a holiday whilst she ignores him, and that she has to talk to us, however he states he has no control as she is not living with us and that he will attempt to speak to her in July of next year on holiday! Unfortunately it turned into a terrible row because I told him he was pandering and what he was doing was feeding her behaviour. He immediately turned on my and called me a ‘f…ing c…nt’. This tends to happen every 6 months or so, when the pressure of the kids cause us to row. He says I provoke him and he turns into a psychopath shouting at the top of his voice insulting me. I’m not perfect by any means and because this is a repeated behaviour every few months I decided to fight back and called him a psychopath and control freak, as well as a few insults which I acknowledge is so unhealthy. He is actually a great partner at other times but I don’t think I can take anymore rages every few months on top of the hostility I have encountered. I’m not sure whether to move out and concentrate on my mental health and my daughter’s behaviour and well-being.