ExW problems

[Splendabar]

So DP and I are due to get married in a few months time. He has a son and a daughter from his first marriage that ended about 5 years ago. ExW is with a man and has gone on to have another child since the divorce from DP. Now, all has been relatively well, DP and ExW discuss plans for SS and SD and that’s about it, they’re not friends but civil enough. This weekend gone my DP received a message from ExW about 12 at night, it said ‘miss us, miss you x’.
DP showed me this and I am absolutely fuming. We get married so soon…. what on earth is she playing at?! Half of me wants to laugh at how desperate she is and the other half wants to call her out. What do I do with this? I don’t want to cause any rifts but she is one CF!!!

😂 it’s starting to look that way!

I would be like WTAF! I'd leave it to DP to respond as it is him she has overstepped and insulted the most really. Although I get why you're annoyed. I'd definitely not be all pally with her.

Yeah that ship has sailed now. I’ll keep the peace but she certainly won’t be getting any favours from me from now on.

Don't blame you

@Splendabar Next time you see her, if you leave the room make an over the top kissy face at your DP and say "miss you, miss us" then walk out. Nice and petty IMO.

I think i have every right to be pissed off about it to be honest. Can you honestly say that if it happened to you, you wouldn't be angry about it?

If I considered my relationship ‘solid’, I can’t imagine finding a text like this anything other than mildly amusing.

I think some women simply can't let go. They can be with a new partner and have had more children etc but it's not enough.

Unless their ex is living on his own with limited child contact, working to pay the child maintenance and offering to have the kids whenever she feels like having a break from them then it's not acceptable. It's childish and borderline bonkers but it is also true in some cases.

Just ignore it OP.

100% agree with @Choccy01, I’d ignore it OP. It’s batshit.

Admittedly when OH and I had been seeing each other for about 6 months, EXW had moved on also and was well aware of our relationship, but frequented in referring to me as the OW (I’m
not), she did something similar. The ONLY reason it grated on me is because of the torrent of abuse I got from her for “stealing her husband”, but it was alright for her to make a move on him when he was with me and she had a new partner. As if she was able to lay claim to him like some sort of possession.

Other than that I just felt sorry for her.

[quote smallybells]@Splendabar Next time you see her, if you leave the room make an over the top kissy face at your DP and say "miss you, miss us" then walk out. Nice and petty IMO. [/quote]
I would be very tempted to do this.