Does anyone else sometimes really not like their step child?

[deflatedstepmum12]

I have a 7yo SC and, whilst I might sound awful, I have to confess I don’t really like her.

I’ve been around her since before she was 2, and all was well at first. But as she’s got older, she’s picking up awful habits from her mum. Mum is a reformed drug addict who has had a tonne of boyfriends living with DSC since I’ve know her, but looks down on me and patronises me even though I’m nearly 10 years her junior but have a very good career and my own home. My SC is now starting to pick up on it, constantly answering back, trying to patronise me and worst of all lying. It is driving me insane.

The worst thing is, DH thinks she’s wonderful. He doesn’t see that she’s sly and rude, and obviously she obsesses over him. Her mum and dad expect me to pick up the slack childcare wise, which is getting harder and harder the more she irritates me!

I feel like a terrible person but I just can’t help it is there anyone else in the same boat?

@MsTSwift

I know I would feel like this so would never get into a relationship with a man with young children.

Same here! It always amazes me that people do, especially after reading thread after thread on Mumsnet; I'd have thought that would be enough to put you off for life.

Same here! It always amazes me that people do, especially after reading thread after thread on Mumsnet; I'd have thought that would be enough to put you off for life.

It is, but most people do it before reading Mumsnet threads.

Yes indeed. I would say to anyone considering it, apart from 'don't', is to read Mumsnet StepParenting threads.

You know the more time I spend on here more often that not it's the dads that cause a lot of the issues that come up.

And you never know if your with the following until your living with one or in very close contact aka holidays: few consistent themes

• Disney dad. Nothing like the boredom of routine and kids challenging rules to test this, he wants to be their pallll. Holidays are a also a good revealer of this

• Dads that don't maintain proper boundaries with ex due to fear

• Dads that don't have boundaries with kids and allow them to run riot

• Dads that are looking for replacement workhorse re kids, childcare ect

• Daddy guilt

• avoidant parenting styles

• Men that think that housework and child rearing should be passed on to the next available female at any given time (usually markers for this are complaining that their ex never did anything around the house) or workaholics that keep having work on contact time (where are the kids ?)

I don't know but I always get the ICK if a dad slags off the mum or ex's early on. She maybe a nut but it doesn't mean on some level I should know about it. Feels like grooming to be something setting up a them vs us situation which doesn't always have to be.

Having said that happily blended families have no reason to visit a advice forum.

Also the chances of a single man with children being a crap dad are higher than for the average man - in many instances he may well be single because he has been a crap dad and first wife had enough. Then history repeats..