Still dont know why i feel bad about the ex.

[malificent7]

I get on well with dps ex and so does he. It makes for an easier life but I do get jealous. She does have a dp and 2 kids with him so i dont feel threatened in that way.
However a few times a year we go away with them, his dd and their other friends. Last time I went i felt a bit excluded...the friends are mutual friends of dp and ex. .dp didnt exclude me but friends did. I think they have a hard time accepting me as the 2nd wife.

I feel so anxious about going away with them all this weekend coming and wonder if I just need to get over it..i like the ex but i prefer not going away with them all. I can't compartmentalise like dp can.

@malificent7

I got a load of lovely texts from him this morning promising change. We will see!

I'm sorry if this sounds like I'm trying to worry you, but nicey nicey texts on a Sunday morning promising change??? Whilst he's on holiday with his ex???? GUILT

Well his ex has bought her built like a shit brick house partner and 2 small children and tiny baby who she is bf and dp is with his 12 year old dd so unless they shoved the kids in a seperate tent and had a gang bang i doubt it!

I don't think it sounds like guilt, it sounds like he's had a chance to think it through. Maybe he even discussed it with the group (I hope not) and the females took your side.

Although it's been a shitty journey you are hopefully in a good place now. When he gets back, sit down and talk about how things are going to be going forward. This could be the real new start he talked about with the house. Be firm here now about what you want.

The thingvis i don't want to be tje jealous, insecure wife who stops him from seeing old friends. For example, the lady in the old foupke was celebrating her 75th birthday this wrekend. She's great...as dp says...he cannot help it if his ex is there.. the older lady means a lot to him and may not have long left so if i told him he couldnt go then id be the bad one. Best off if I just don't go.

I don't like your latest post op. It does not make you jealous or insecure to have a problem with this.

But it would be controlling of me to stop him going to some of his best friends' parties etc just becauae the ex is there. I am happy to not go myself but I can't stop him too.

He hasn't called me jealous or insecure...I feel jealous and insecure.