SC staying over during covid.

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Now the government have lifted restrictions, does anyone else feel nervous about SC staying over.
My DH has a teenager (who he's maintained contact with) but SC hasn't stayed at our house since last year.
How do others feel about mixing households, especially teenagers?

My kids have been going as normal to thier dads.

Unless there's any reason why they shouldn't have ie shielding perhaps then no reason why your stepkids shouldn't have come to stay

Sorry things like this give SMs a bad name.

OP went to work in a school but would not allow her DSD to come to her DSDs home ( her fathers home ) for a year.

Contact was what - if he travelled to see DSD - then the risk was the same as having her in the house.
if it was facetime contact - then that is pathetic. I think we all know that is a poor substitute to a hug, nudge and physical presence from our loved ones.

OP did not reduce her risk - it stayed the same. There is no logic to her actions and to now consider banning for longer does border o the hysterical

I'm aware this is an old thread and old news but I just wanted to add my perspective as I feel OP got a little bit of unnecessary flack.

I have a DSS and he didn't stay in my house for 12 months during covid - our households didn't mix whatsoever and my husband was happy, and even reassured, by this arrangement.

I am high risk and his mother was on social media attending various house parties mixing with allkinds right in the thick of the initial wave. We didn't want to take the risk.

My kids didn't go to school, nobody was allowed in our house, we work from home, washed our shopping etc etc.

Was advised by the clinical director of the hospital not to mix for a long time and we listened.

Each to their own but the fear of your health is something that's very difficult and everyone has to do what they see fit. I have two young children and wasn't willing to put them through having their mum sick again because of DSS's mother's bad choices. Call that selfish or call me Cruella, that's fine, but everyone's story is different and it's not always cut and dried.

We remained in contact with DSS, facetime etc and monitored the cases etc. When they dipped my husband would visit him outside with a mask on. He understood why this was all happening. As soon as we were fully vaccinated he came back.

We did the same @Amybelle88, although not for 12 months. Just during the lockdowns.

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I did worry about it, I'd be totally lying if I said that I felt guilt free and didn't care that DSS wasn't here, but I think it's such an odd situation that everyone had to, and still has to now, do what was right for their households - its totally unprecedented, isn't it?! I don't have a particularly loving bond with my DSS but I care about his wellbeing, I look after him when he's in our care and I'm kind to him - so I didn't miss him being here if I'm being totally honest but I felt empathy for him as a kid dealing with something like a pandemic and not seeing his Dad ( we are normally pretty much 50/50) - I was sad for him but he really understood the situation and handled it better than most adults imo!

We still maintained the same stance when lockdowns were lifted, mainly because we always knew another wave was on the way due to close contact with doctors and nurses, but also because his DM was wreckless throughout and showed no regard for anybody else - going out partying etc. Each to their own obviously, I'd say no judgement here but there is to a degree, and with the same sentiment it was our choice to handle it the way we wanted, as it was hers. She knows why I'm high risk and wasn't willing to reign it in and not mix with other people so that DSS could still have contact, so we had to ultimately make that call.

DH was relieved, like I say - he didn't have to carry the worry that she would catch covid and then I would end up with it due to contact etc.

Not an easy situation for anyone.