Have name changed for this as I don't want it linked to my other posts. Not sure whether to put this in step-parenting or relationships. Have been with husband for 8 years, married for 3. He has one teen still at home and I have one about to leave for uni.
My issue is that every time I ask him to address something with his son it blows up into a huge row. This morning, I go downstairs to find that SS has left the fridge door wide open after getting out his packed lunch. He'd left the house 15 mins earlier so it had been open a while. Good job I was last to leave the house or it would have been open all day. This shit irritates me as his son walks round glued to his phone meaning he often forgets to do the most basic of things like flush the loo or close the fridge door after him. So I text him asking him to mention it. Short text, to the point. He accuses me of being aggressive (I wasn't) and said 'oh the door must have swung open, he wouldn't have left it open. Erm, that's not really how fridge doors work... Anyhow I call him to discuss and he just hangs up on me. Rude. So now the situation has escalated because he hasn't just dealt with it and moved on, and now I'm angry at him for hanging up on me.
This all sounds fairly minor and petty except it happens on a regular basis and I am worn down with it. So I either run round after his son making sure he's done the basic stuff he should just do, and bite my tongue so as to avoid a row, or I raise it and it escalates? What do I do?