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PicturePicture · 2021-05-12T15:52:29+00:00

One joint DC, two step DC. Bought a canvas print of our DC for bedroom, didn't get one of DSC but that are normal pictures in frames of them around house as there is of everyone.

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HerRoyalNotness · 12/05/2021 20:49

YANBU.

You’ve clearly said their are photo’s of all of them in various groups in the house. If your DH has a problem he’s more than capable of taking a photo/booking a shoot, and ordering some prints/canvasses or printing them at home and shopping for frames and hanging them isn’t he? Or does he think this is your responsibility?

funinthesun19 · 12/05/2021 20:55

Is he canvas the same size as the pictures?

You mean the op’s canvas of her children she bought for herself for her birthday? What if the pictures of the stepchildren are all 8x6s and she wanted a 10x8? Oh yes we can’t possibly have that. She’s even said it’s not a great big canvas.

ThatIsMyPotato · 12/05/2021 20:59

@toocold54

Is he canvas the same size as the pictures?

It can be as big as OP wants, it's her child. DP can get his own massive canvas of all 3 kids if he wants. I can maybe understand it if it was in the hallway and it was the first thing you see and it was massive. In which case DP should have ordered one of his kids at the same time really.

But it's not and it isn't.

ThatIsMyPotato · 12/05/2021 21:03

What if the pictures of the stepchildren are all 8x6s and she wanted a 10x8? Oh yes we can’t possibly have that. oh yes...all the children have to be treated equally so each child must have the same number of square inches of photograph. I must measure up our photos before SC come next so they aren't traumatised for life.

AnneLovesGilbert · 12/05/2021 21:05

Did he not know you were getting it till it was on the wall? We don’t have photos in our room though have plenty throughout the house and I wouldn’t put anything sizeable up without discussing it with him first as it’s not a huge room.

We’ve currently got lots more pix up around the place of my DSC as they’ve gone up over the years and DD is only two. So if I was thinking of getting something like this done of DD she’s still less represented on the walls than DH’s kids and he wouldn’t object anyway.

Did you not tell him beforehand because you knew he’d be annoyed? What’s he going to do now you’ve got it? If he wants pictures up of his DC, on canvas or not, I’m sure you wouldn’t mind so tell him to get on with it.

minniemomo · 12/05/2021 21:14

As long as there's a decent picture of dsc not necessarily exact same size but at least getting there even if framed. Largish canvas of joint dc and only 4x6 of step kids sends a subtle message

minniemomo · 12/05/2021 21:16

And we have equal sized photos of each of the kids for a reason- says you are equal. That said one has been tricky to photograph, very reluctant

toocold54 · 12/05/2021 21:27

That's a bit pedantic. Love isn't measured in canvas sizes, it's excessive to measure.

I asked to get an idea of what the situation is.

And I would say it does matter if all the SC have a wallet size photo and residential child had a massive canvas then I’d understand the SC feeling a bit upset.

ihavenowords30 · 12/05/2021 21:33

I wouldn't want a pick of my SK in my bedrooM on the wall! Hallways , living room or kitchen yes.

Yes I do have one smaller pic of ours DS on my fireplace in the bedroom

ThatIsMyPotato · 12/05/2021 21:36

@toocold54

That's a bit pedantic. Love isn't measured in canvas sizes, it's excessive to measure.

I asked to get an idea of what the situation is.

And I would say it does matter if all the SC have a wallet size photo and residential child had a massive canvas then I’d understand the SC feeling a bit upset.

Their dad can buy one then if it upsets them.

luccyloo · 12/05/2021 21:59

It's fine. I don't have an equal number of photos of my own DC. GP's don't have an equal number of all the DGC.

Littledoodles90 · 25/05/2021 13:10

I have literally just realised that there are no pics on the walls anywhere in our house of my dps dc. There's various bits of art, photos of my family, animals, friends our dc there's even a couple of our campers. I've been adding to the walls in my house for years but dp has never said anything in regards to things he like/dislikes/wants etc has never seemed to have an opinion on what I get him to put up and where, he just gets his hammer and nails out. He is capable of bringing pics into the house, he has one of his parents in a frame on a shelf in the lounge, he didn't ask permission he just did it and the world didn't end, in fact I didn't even notice for days. This has really made me wonder why he has no pics of his kid up.

Leonardsgirl · 25/05/2021 13:26

I don't necessarily think it's unreasonable but I personally wouldn't do it. Your DP thinks it's unreasonable so it's clearly a large canvas compared to the size of the photos of the other DC. Kids pick up on these things, and to your DH the children are all equally important.

Tippytappytoes · 25/05/2021 18:48

@Leonardsgirl

I don't necessarily think it's unreasonable but I personally wouldn't do it. Your DP thinks it's unreasonable so it's clearly a large canvas compared to the size of the photos of the other DC. Kids pick up on these things, and to your DH the children are all equally important.

Can’t her DH solve that by paying to have one done for his kids then? Like the OP did.

harryclr · 25/05/2021 22:06

Not being unreasonable at all. People need to stop being so sensitive.

dorris88 · 26/05/2021 14:37

YANBU AT ALL!

Corr the comments on here wound me up a bit haha.

Sooooo pedantic

RedMarauder · 27/05/2021 10:19

OP your DH is both lazy and weird.

I presume he is an adult?

So if he wants pictures up of any or some of his children then he can sort it out himself.