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AIBU?

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PicturePicture · 12/05/2021 16:52

One joint DC, two step DC.

Bought a canvas print of our DC for bedroom, didn't get one of DSC but that are normal pictures in frames of them around house as there is of everyone.

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Tigertealeaves · 12/05/2021 18:57

If DH or SDC feel it's an issue then he can get himself a canvas of them and put it up.

When I moved into my DP's flat there was a giant baby photo of DSS2 in the hallway and not one of DSS1. There are special mugs and keyrings of DSS1 only. And so on. Zero issue. I don't think every item has to include every child!?

Louisa4987 · 12/05/2021 19:26

@UhtredRagnarson

Back in the real world this is clearly a non issue. MN will tell you you're the wicked step mother for it though.

Except they haven’t.

No the OP has just been told it's excluding them and that it will be upsetting for them when realistically I don't know any children that would notice or careHmm
UhtredRagnarson · 12/05/2021 19:35

No the OP has just been told it's excluding them and that it will be upsetting for them when realistically I don't know any children that would notice or carehmm

So not been called a wicked step mother then. Which is what I said.

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PicturePicture · 12/05/2021 19:36

DH mentioned it as if it was unreasonable.

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Louisa4987 · 12/05/2021 19:38

@UhtredRagnarson

No the OP has just been told it's excluding them and that it will be upsetting for them when realistically I don't know any children that would notice or carehmm

So not been called a wicked step mother then. Which is what I said.

Clearly it was tongue in cheek. Sorry you missed it..Wink
Thisnamewasnttaken123 · 12/05/2021 19:40

Of course you are not being unreasonable.
Your DH is being ridiculous.

UhtredRagnarson · 12/05/2021 19:41

Clearly it was tongue in cheek. Sorry you missed it..wink

Except it wasn’t.

Namechanger0800 · 12/05/2021 19:44

Christ on a bike can't you have a framed photo of your child now without it being an issue? Some of these comments are madness! If your DH wants a photo of his kids as well then he's quite capable of sorting

ALevelhelp · 12/05/2021 19:44

@PicturePicture

DH mentioned it as if it was unreasonable.
Then why doesn't he have one made with all the children then? This is a gift from your mum!
Getyourarseofffthequattro · 12/05/2021 19:47

Presumably he is capable of getting a picture of all of his children. Yanbu at all.

Louisa4987 · 12/05/2021 19:47

@UhtredRagnarson

Clearly it was tongue in cheek. Sorry you missed it..wink

Except it wasn’t.

If you really want to be that picky- if you re read my post it says MN WILL not HAS. Therefore in the future, which is my prediction and not stating something that's already been said. It's fairly common on here that step mothers are shot down in flames for ridiculous things. Also pretty common that people like to try and pick ridiculous argumentsHmm
bogoffmda · 12/05/2021 19:47

OP can do what she wants.

But do kids notice - yes they do, would they say something - probably not.

I put a pic up of DCS and the very quiet comment was - Dad has no pictures of us up. So I offered to get them a copy to give to him - he will not be allowed to put it up was the response.
We did it anyway. The pic was put on the wall in their shared room at his place ( incidentally the utility room with a bed and the washing machine!) Eldest took his ipad and took pics of the lounge dining room, hallway and Exand his DP room. Pics of her DCS and their joint DC but none of EXs other DCS.

Would suggest OP asks his DP if he wants to order one of his other DCS aswell.

EX now with new DP and pics of all DCS eveywhere - believe me they notice.

Bimblingaway · 12/05/2021 19:48

It’s not unreasonable, it’s perfectly fine. If your DH has a problem with it, maybe he has some underlying guilt about something to do with his other kids?

Getyourarseofffthequattro · 12/05/2021 19:48

@bogoffmda

OP can do what she wants.

But do kids notice - yes they do, would they say something - probably not.

I put a pic up of DCS and the very quiet comment was - Dad has no pictures of us up. So I offered to get them a copy to give to him - he will not be allowed to put it up was the response.
We did it anyway. The pic was put on the wall in their shared room at his place ( incidentally the utility room with a bed and the washing machine!) Eldest took his ipad and took pics of the lounge dining room, hallway and Exand his DP room. Pics of her DCS and their joint DC but none of EXs other DCS.

Would suggest OP asks his DP if he wants to order one of his other DCS aswell.

EX now with new DP and pics of all DCS eveywhere - believe me they notice.

Nice projecting there.
UhtredRagnarson · 12/05/2021 19:54

If you really want to be that picky- if you re read my post it says MN WILL not HAS. Therefore in the future, which is my prediction and not stating something that's already been said. It's fairly common on here that step mothers are shot down in flames for ridiculous things. Also pretty common that people like to try and pick ridiculous argumentshmm

Sure we’ll see.

daisyjgrey · 12/05/2021 19:57

YABU for having a picture put on a canvas.

toocold54 · 12/05/2021 20:08

Is he canvas the same size as the pictures?

Louisa4987 · 12/05/2021 20:08

@UhtredRagnarson

If you really want to be that picky- if you re read my post it says MN WILL not HAS. Therefore in the future, which is my prediction and not stating something that's already been said. It's fairly common on here that step mothers are shot down in flames for ridiculous things. Also pretty common that people like to try and pick ridiculous argumentshmm

Sure we’ll see.

I hope you're ok. You don't sound it.
ThatIsMyPotato · 12/05/2021 20:15

@PicturePicture

DH mentioned it as if it was unreasonable.
It's not. Presumably he has pictures of him with his kids?
UhtredRagnarson · 12/05/2021 20:16

I hope you're ok. You don't sound it.

Eh? No you don’t 😂

sconenotscon · 12/05/2021 20:29

YANBU

aSofaNearYou · 12/05/2021 20:32

In any context other this being the only picture in the house and prominently displayed in pride of place, YANBU.

It would be one thing if your SC complained about it but your husband doing so is annoying. Why doesn't he sort out a picture of his kids if he wants one? Classic case of expecting the SM to put in effort the dad wouldn't himself.

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PicturePicture · 12/05/2021 20:38

@toocold54

Is he canvas the same size as the pictures?
No it's bigger.
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aSofaNearYou · 12/05/2021 20:40

@toocold54

Is he canvas the same size as the pictures?
That's a bit pedantic. Love isn't measured in canvas sizes, it's excessive to measure.
Lollypop701 · 12/05/2021 20:43

It’s your picture of your child. If dh wants a canvas he’d have his 3 on. Don’t see any issue, but sound like you need a chat with dh.