SCs and their DM constantly breaking covid rules

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My SCs and their DM have broken lockdown at least 3 times this week to go and see friends and extended family.

I have a vulnerable mother, 2 DCs of my own who are also bored/lonely/miserable and we’re not seeing anyone other than my mum who we’ve formed a bubble with so she can help with homeschooling as I work full time.

I’m sick to fucking death of being careful, following all the guidelines etc only to find out that DP’s ex and their kids are doing as they please and then we’re expected to keep up with the contact schedule.

So they see whoever they want then I’m expected to be totally fine with them coming into our home after mixing with God knows who.

I’m furious with DP for being so blasé about it all
“Oh SD16 only met up with a couple of friends”
“SD11 only had one friend for a sleepover on Wednesday”

Honestly!!! I’m so angry! So because he, his ex and his kids think it’s ok to do whatever they want it potentially puts me and my kids at risk and is also meaning I may have to stop my mum helping here because I don’t want to risk her getting it.

Also I feel like I’m drowning in work and homeschooling, I’m at my limit with it all and the thought of not being able to have that small bit of support and help from my mum makes me want to cry.

I’ve had a lie in this morning and woken up to find DP has dropped SD16 off at a football pitch at the local sports ground to meet her friend and so she can watch a team of boys play football?!

Just to add that my children aren’t DP’s, they’re mine. So I feel like not two fucks are being given to our safety... as long as his kids are happy that’s the main thing hey?

I’m so upset. And angry, I’m really really angry.

I feel your frustration. DP's ex & their 2 young children (primary school age) are round friends houses & family. We currently have stopped access due to covid cases at both our work places. But I'd love to bend the rules & not feel bad. Unfortunately I'm not that type of person.

Report them! You don’t have to give your name. If they’re honestly breaking Covid rules and you feel that strongly about it, report them. I would but I’m a bit of a cow and would probably just find any excuse just to piss my Hs exW off and get her a fine. Obviously you couldn’t tell your H though, if he’s anything like mine - nice and a reasonable human being- he will be cross with you, so you would need to live with it. I would do it but unfortunately BM is actually following the rules as far as I’m aware, surprising, shame.

What’s your living situation with DP? Is he living in your house or is it joint? I can’t get over why a twat he’s being

If you ask him why he’s doing it, does he have any answer? Is he scared of ex or just doesn’t care?

This is awful, OP. So sorry your DP is being so spineless, you have every right to be angry.

You just want some consideration and boundaries with the other family. The ability to speak up and say ‘this affects me and I’m not okay with it’. But the assumption is that - as a step mum you are pure evil/hate the dc so it’s so seemingly delicate to speak up.

This scenario just sums up so beautifully the lot of the step mum.

I’ve nothing to add except my solidarity and sympathy. I hope your DP sees sense.