Not a bloody taxi service!!

[Songbird232018]

Ok I need opinions on what to do here...
Me and DH 4 kids 1 bio 3years and 3 SKs (14-17) now they are coming to ours a lot more regular with e learning and with this brings the dreading 'forgetting stuff' just to be clear there's no real animosity towards the kids here, yes they should remember better etc but going between houses stuffs bound to be missed.
My problem is their mum and step dad never ever bring then to pick stuff from ours they've forgetting or drop stuff to them at ours etc.

Eldest forget his acne meds- I took him back to pick up as dad had had a drink (bday celebration) his mum says he'd just have to not use it over the weekend.

Youngest forget his work at mums he needed for e learning, his dad took him back.

Daughter forget her coat! Her bloody coat (that I bought 2 weeks previously) mum says well if your dad or step mum are driving past pick it up... we have no bloody reason to drive past! So I go again.

Eldest leaves his laptop charger here at the weekend and says he can't work without it... no one can drive him over so I have to go at 8am (dads on nights)

There's plenty more... well tonight they went home at 6pm and low and behold the youngest has left his laptop charger here and needs it for work tomorrow, he's got 13%battery

I'm in the let them learn the hard way camp and I suspect the other set of parents are too.
If you look at it from the outside you are enabling their forgetfulness while the mum's side are trying to teach them a life lesson.

You need to pass the responsibility of remembering what they need to bring back onto the step-kids ....they ARE old enough to remember.
Maybe their dad could call them before they are due to be picked up and ensure they've packed what they need?

Surely there are other laptops in the house do none of them have chargers that fit it?
If not I'd buy one just for your house anyway as irs quite essential.right now.
My step kids are always forgetting things like coats so I have one that would fit them in emergencies that lives here and when they have both grown out of it it goes to the coats for kids appeal.
And if you see SC alot you should have some of the meds they need at yours all the time, we do their with DSS's ADHD meds.
It just makes life easier.

Oops just read you tried that. My DSC's mum lives 100 miles away so swapping things around isnt possible and they are used to just leaving everything here (not presents or anything of theirs that they'll would like to take home obviously) which probably helps.
We make a list of what they brought with and they tick things off when they leave although I leave that down to them most of thr time (with in reason)
Abd it seems to work.

Its really shit its all being left to you but you are well within your rights to tell the mother or her bf to co.e and get the charger, I hope they did.

I don't think the comparison between packing for trips or weekends away is valid because for most people those things aren't routine. I'd say it was more akin to remembering which books, kit etc you need for school each day. Many would agree that those parents who are forever traipsing up to the school with forgotten packed lunches or PE kit etc aren't doing their children any favours in the long run. OP's DSC are old enough to start experiencing the natural consequences of not taking simple responsibilities for themselves.

That's not to say it has to be all or nothing - it's the overall pattern that counts. I doubt very much OP would be complaining about being a taxi service if it only happened occasionally.