My husbands 10yo son wants nothing to do with us and hasn't for over a year, he won't answer the phone we bought him, doesn't reply to text and his mum says she can't do anything about it cause he's always on fortnite.
We've been together 5 years (I have 2 DC) and everything was fine until the ex had another baby beginning of last year, she started demanding more maintenance and told us that if we wanted to see SS I had to pay an extra £20 everytime I fetched him. They live 65 miles away. I was so nice to her, sent her loads of presents for the baby and for her too, which DH wasn't happy about.
We were already paying every month, clothes, shoes, coats and school uniform she wanted extra too because she'd also bought 2 puppies.
She has never ever had a job in her whole life but expects me and DH to fund her life which isn't happening.
We refused to pay the extra and she took us to csa and they actually calculated we should pay less so she was fuming. We contacted a solicitor and she said to only pay the csa amount which we now do and the extra we were paying we put in a bank account for him, which is our choice.
That's when all contact stopped and she told SS we wouldn't pay for him etc
We used to drive up and she'd lock the door and they would hide in the house, after more than 10 trips we stopped.
We have had 1 text message from him in a year saying yes in reply to asking if school is going ok.
Me and my DH are expecting a baby and we contacted SS to let him know and again nothing, we sent a card to the house and scan pic still nothing and DH has said we aren't going to let it dampen what's supposed to be a nice time.
The ex has naturally found out I'm pregnant and has now said if we can afford a baby she's going to need £400 towards a new PlayStation and also a new TV because he's smashed them up getting angry with fortnite, this isn't the first time.
We aren't buying them for him and now I'm being called every name under the sun, horrible comments about my unborn baby all because We won't reward bad behaviour.
How do we move forward with this toxic relationship it's so mentally exhausting, she will never ever see sense because she's too money orientated it's not about the child, last thing we want to do is drag him through court.
Do we just keep putting our family through stress chasing after something that's not going to happen or cut ties slightly?
I don't know, please no bashing comments off people who have perfect step children or no step children at all cause you can't possibly relate.
Thank you