Ex Wife is a Nightmare!!!

[Amanda87]

How do you deal with your husband's crazy ex wife?
They have 2 daughters together, I love them very much. She is always finding ways to text him pretending is about the kids but ALWAYS making drama over something.
She uses horrible words, call him names, very very low level. I feel like she just wants to make his life hell. She was the one that left, has another partner but doesn't fully seem to have moved on.
She keeps him from seeing his children whenever something doesn't happen as she wishes. She refers to me as "the other" or "supposedly wife". The other day she involved me in the drama, saying I should be available to pick their kids up when the father can't (Now am I a cab driver or what????). And when I asked to stop harassing my husband she said she'll always text him cause of the kids (As if!!!!) and if I don't like that I should get a divorce... Ahahahah
Now, seriously, how do you wives deal with the exes???

It’s hard to see your husband get wound up, attacked etc by anyone.
I would just wonder why he can’t take control of the Situation. Personally, I’d block her and only respond to emails about the children.

@AnneLovesGilbert

But there's only so much someone can put up with, specially when I see my husband stressed out and upset.

He’s a big boy. He can defend himself. It’s not your job to fight his battles.

Agree.

My oh ex behaved like the wife in the op story.

There are truly heinous exes out there and the only way to deal with them is NOT to give them any space at all.

The h needs to man up and go grey rock - not responding to anything that’s nasty, or only to cause trouble.

Treat this woman like the spoilt toddler she is. Ignore the bad, reward the good.

Also if she is pissing about with contact, either get it sorted in court, no discussion with the woman, just a solicitor letter and potential action.

Or call her bluff. Let her stop contact - stop worrying about it because she’s using the kids as a weapon- as soon as you don’t react to the threats and leave it, she’ll stop pissing about, and you can then go to court to get an order/get it enforced.

The main issue here is that your h is allowing this woman to terrorise your family. If he can’t/won’t stop it, you have to let him go

Are people still offended when their differentiated i.e BM, SM is that really still being discussed, good lord that really is crazy.