I have 2 Step sons aged 13 and 16 and had a little boy 3 months ago. Has anyone found since having a baby their DH has been really defensive of the other kids? I have a work xmas do on Friday, i work with my family business but we also have other employees. I asked my DH 2 weeks ago if he wanted go come as it’s go-karting then out for food after. He was keen and was going to make arrangements for my 13 year old ss to stay elsewhere as my work is 2 hours from where we live (DH is in the military).
when I asked him again yesterday he said it wasn’t fair to leave his son and asked if he could bring him. I said no as it’s my works xmas do so it’s not really appropriate plus he said he would sort something out before. We have now been arguing for 2 days about it as he thinks I’m being out of order not letting his son come when the baby is coming. The thing is the baby is breastfed so has to come, plus I’m not ready to leave him yet. If he was older I certainly wouldn’t be bringing him! Am I being out of order?!