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Anyone else just worn out?

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Magda72 · 25/11/2018 09:35

Really just need a vent. I just feel so worn out by both sets of teens & exes at the moment. Honestly I sometimes think that all dp & I do is run around after both sets of kids while both exes just do what they want. The annual Christmas negotiations with my ex re the kids have kicked off with him wanting to change arrangements again which obviously then impacts on dp & dp's ex who also wants to change arrangements this year - for no reason that seems necessary. My exh is having a bad time at work & as per his track record has started drinking regularly (again) which involves him always wanting to go out/go to gigs etc. & so he starts trying to change or cancel access. I know the kids are teens but it's still a total pain. Meanwhile dp's ex is just being her usual difficult self 🙄 - new drama every week.
All the kids are fine & are just being slightly selfish teens - normally I'm fine to deal with teen stuff but I just feel depleted by their wants at the moment.
I'm rambling and ranting - sorry - maybe it's just the onset of silly season has me fed up or maybe I've just hit my mid 40's mid life crisis 😂.

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TooSassy · 12/01/2019 15:42

I wanted to say bananas, it is an incredibly insightful post. Thank you for sharing.

Magda, keep posting her for support. If it helps. I am on a train right now to spend the night with my friends. I could have been away with DP but I said no. I wanted a lie in, lazy morning, workout and then a great supper with my girlfriends. Another lie in tmrw and I’ll be set for another loooong week at work.
I’m honestly having a fab weekend so far and the amount of regrets I have about not spending it with DP are zero. Grin

Magda72 · 14/01/2019 11:26

I had a little grin reading this as I did similar with dp this weekend - he didn't take it very well but there you go!
Hope you had a great weekend sassy.
Smile

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Bananasinpyjamas11 · 14/01/2019 16:21

Good luck Magda - and agree totally with the weekend away without them!

I’ve also just come back from my first weekend away without youngest DS and DP! It was amazing. I went to a kind of reunion / celebration, and connected with some very dear old friends. They are an amazing bunch, incredible people, some have launched into worldwide renown (so proud!) others just normal and lovely (thank goodness), one had suffered a life changing illness, had to give up a worthy career, to become a sahm single parent, but had the energy and life of us all!

I feel like a piece of myself just flew back into place.

These Ex/DP situations are the opposite - draining, insular, negative, about control and manipulation - ultimately lead to nowhere. Eurgh!

We definitely need to preserve the joy and vitality of ourselves. Friendships are gold. I’m incredibly lucky to have these friends in my life. Glad you have too. Grin

TooSassy · 14/01/2019 20:56

Awwww I will also add that I returned from the girl time having missed my DP and uber happy to see him. He too had a fab weekend. A little time apart topping ourselves up with friends and family can be just the ticket as in turn it helps establish some normality! Well done us!

How are things otherwise Magda?

Bananas, completely agree. We are exceptionally lucky.

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