Not wanting to be free childcare?

[espoleta]

My DP and I have a DD who is 9 months old. He has two boys (8&10) from his previous relationship who are with us 60% of the time. Generally things work really well.

We both have approved flexible working requests. He has his before we had DD which means he needs to be home at 6 three times a week as the after school nanny finishes up at 6. On two of the days he has DSS he picks up DD from nursery. I work 4 days a week

Recently he has started to turn up later and later on his non nursery days when he is still meant to be home at 6. Often the nanny has plans and doesn't want to stay over her allotted hours so leaves DSS with me. Fine, I don't have a problem if he runs late a bit. But I still have a 9 month old to feed, bath, get to bed. But now I feel like he's taking the piss.

Wednesday- home at 7. I had 4 kids to take care of.
Thursday- 6:30
Friday- still not home.

It's now a regular event. It's expected I'm just here to provide childcare. This school holiday he's just informed me that he needs to leave before the nanny arrives (and I need to get the baby to nursery and get to work) or the he won't be home at 6 so I'll need to take care is DSS.

I'm pissed off! I'm not his free childcare!

• oh. And I have a good relationship with the SC, this is not about them it's about DP.

[StressedToTheMaxx]

Continue with your farewell wee and leave dh to sort this. After all he cause the nanny to quit.
If you make him fix his mess he won't do it to the next nanny. You wipe his bum for him now, it will be the same situation next time.
I say from experience my dp was the same, he messed around finishing times etc often. I finally left him to fix his mess and it hasn't happened since.
And good luck with your new job!

[StressedToTheMaxx]

farewell week not farewell wee 😂😂

[Bananasinpyjamas11]

This is your DPs job, to mind his kids and sort out parental sharing with his Ex, so it’s his mess to sort out.

It’s not good for you to do this for him. This isn’t a one off, and I tell you evenings when we are all so tired after work / kids are a very stressful time to be consistently late.

[JoanFrenulum]

Oh dear. So he wasn't just a rude bastard to you, he was a rude bastard to the nanny as well and she's up and left. He could try grovelling and paying her back for all the extra time. She's right about the trust though--if you extend her contract to 6.30 he'll just start coming back at 6.45, unless he can really get his act together.