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[Crossroads18]

Hi guys, just needing some advice. So after much debates we have finally got the ex wife to agree that we can drive up every other Friday to see my stepkids. (Bit of background she has stopped them staying EOW and they live 108 miles away. Originally she was making my partner have to get two trains up and back with our 11minth old every other Saturday because I worked and my mum couldn't have both boys, and he would only get to spend 5hours there before getting train home and getting the train was costing him a fortune. For a while she was making him go to the town next door so for him to see them he was spending £50 on trains and then anything Upto £100 on the day out and food, whereas if she simply let him have the kids in his home town they would have had family close by.) The Saturdays weren't working as if train delays or cancellations he was screwed. So she has agreed to Fridays. We are due to go up next Friday making the 216 mike round trip to see them, however we are then being allowed to have them for a week the following Wednesday. My partner has said to her that he is thinking of not coming up the Friday as it seems silly spending more on fuel when we are collecting them for a week a few days later and what we save on fuel is more days out for them to visit. we did ask if we could have them girls from that Friday but she has said no it has to be the Wednesday a few days later. Are we really being unreasonable would you think? It's not like he won't be seeing them and he is just trying to enable us to have more money when they are down. She has already had a go this week asking if we will bother to contribute to uniform this year which we have just taken in our stride as we know how stressful it gets, my stepdad is also suffering at the moment as my mum is away for 4 weeks on holiday with school so he took us all to Peppa Pig world all expensive paid and she made us feel so guilty for going. But when the girls come
Down for the week we have got some big days our planned with them and neither boys will be with us as the eldest will be at his dads and my youngest at nursery. Suppose I am just feeling a bit lows

Not many men would be wasting money on fizzy drinks while their partner went hungry. He's a fucking disgraceful man-child.

Wow I hope he’s giving you some good D!!! Because I can’t see what this relationship has to offer besides your need to take care of a useless man child.

If what you say is true, she’s a mad ex w and he needs another women to look after his cost and life why stay?

I hate it when mums say that a dad has to prove and follower conditions because they suddenly need to build trust, ( though it wasn’t an issue when they were together only now they have broken up, Dad is suddenly the worse father, didn’t change a nappy so won’t no how too)
But you two need to stop expecting her life to change because of what’s going on in yours, he won’t get a court order because he can’t be bothered and doesn’t want to waste the money, to busy telling everyone she’s bad.
You both need to stick to your word and stop changing things, you don’t have a right too, she can because she actually looks after these dc.
Plus he went to sports day, whoop whoop - what’s that got to do with a price of bread?

You have to eat only one meal per day, yet you were posting just two weeks ago about your partner wanting to go to Disney for Christmas next year, albeit with only 1 of his 3 kids, and your son?

You really have got yourself quite the catch there! Or else you’re really over-egging it to convince us how much you care about him seeing his girls.

@freetoagoodhome yes I did post about that a couple weeks ago, however I have said we won't be going for Christmas but we will be going away in 2020 all of us together for a week. Thinking Butlins or haven at the moment. Obviously we would have over a year and half to save and pay it off. The eating situation is only temporary as I needed to make sure we had enough in the house for them coming down for the week both freezer, cupboard and snack draw plus keeping some aside to buy the fresh stuff when they visit. As I need to do up 7days worth of picnic stuff for our days out for all of us. Next time they will b down for a week is Christmas so I will have longer to buy more and put aside so it won't be so tight.

Don’t forget everyone they are going abroad this year without the girls but op can only have one meal a day because all down to the bitch of an ex expecting him to travel and fund it to get his girls because he needed to move away, how dare she.....

Yes we are going away next year! 2019 but my parents have paid and funded it all. We haven't paid anything. We wouldn't be able to go next if we had to pay!

You’re priorities are complet my messed up op