Financial support through Uni

[amw73]

I have been married for almost 10yrs to hubby. He has known DS since he was 5.

My ex has always been a nightmare and we basically don't speak. He has actually moved abroad to avoid paying maintenance (and to avoid other debts but that's none of my business ). DS visits them occasionally. I have no reason to think he is saving or anything for DS to go to uni.

I work part time due to health reasons and hubby has a good job so we are financially stable.

Hubby comments frequently though about the ex and how he should be paying etc. There is nothing I can do about that.

I did the calculations and due to hubby's income DS won't be able to get a full living allowance when he goes to Uni. I'm currently putting about £50 a month away but it won't be near enough.

I worry that if I expect hubby to financially support DS then it's going to cause huge resentment.

DS is very academic and is about to start A levels in September

How do other families manage this?

@IWannaSeeHowItEnds gosh your view is odd.

Why is it odd?
You can't just marry someone who has kids and do exactly as you please without taking them into account at all. And people who have dc from previous relationships can't just jack in their jobs and be sahp - are their kids supposed yo eat fresh air?

My son graduated last year after doing a masters in physics- we were advised by all his lecturers for him not to work many hours and to treat the degree as a full time job, when I met my husband my son was 2, the rules for student finance was completely different then. We had just under 2 years to save money to go towards his living costs, as the new rules came in in 2012. My sons student loan was 5400 no grant, his rent alone was 4800! We. actually only earnst 42000 between us. Not much in the south east with another child to support as well. It shouldn’t be treated the same as benefits as the student pays it back, if you had a high paying job after being on job seekers, you don’t