Announcing pregnancy to step children

[clairehr]

Just curious as to how people have gone about this?

Worried about how his ex-wife will react (she already manipulates and uses the children e.g. "daddy left us so we have to have a smaller house and you can't go to a good school any more") and therefore how OHs two boys will react.

Boys are currently 8 and 4 and we are in cycle three of trying for a baby. They are fantastic with their little cousins and excited about being step cousins to my brothers baby due in June.

Another message of support for you OP.

To the posters sitting in your ivory towers, mocking the lower folk with their lower morals, please let us know when you get knocked off your perches and we’ll ensure we all get our buckets of popcorn to sit and watch.

The OP could have been swinging from the chandeliers with her DP screaming ‘come on you swimmers’ from one day after he separated from his EW and it’s no ones business. No ones.

Agree that there are some very nasty people commenting here!

OP - my DP's children had known me for just under a year when we told them I was pregnant, and I was around 16 weeks then (I think). My partner had paved the way beforehand by discussing the idea of them having a half sibling one day. They were both really pleased, came to a scan and were so excited. Now our DD is here and they both adore her. Just keep them involved as much as possible and create a space where they can ask as many questions as they like.

Sounds like you are trying hard to do the right thing by your Sc and if you keep doing that it should pay off in the long run regardless of what their mother does
It is good to acknowledge that their father having another child does majorly impact on his kids

We told ours and there really excited. They keep asking questions which is nice. The only low point was were having a boy and step daughter wanted a sister so keeps insisting it will be one!
Just tell them and I'm sure they will be fine.

Hi OP
We are in a similar predicament. I have two wonderful step children, 6 and 7. We are 15 weeks pregnant today. On our end they have a very balanced and stable home life. However their mum and SD recently had a baby and their relationship has not been too good of late. We’ve decided to wait a little while until they’re settled again with Mum. Only as I feel like another issue wouldn’t be helpful to them at such a young age.

It’s very easy for people not in situations such as these to judge, however please remember you are trying to do the best by the children and that is incredibly kind, caring and considerate. Also it’s very mature unlike some of the previous posts. Xx