Bedroom arrangements

[LemonMuffin837]

So, we have three bedrooms. One is obviously mine and DP's, the second largest is SD, the box room is SS at the moment.
SD and SS stay every Saturday, but I'd say once a month actually sleep in their bedrooms, they usually fall asleep downstairs. They only ever really sleep in their rooms if they have friends stay or we've got to be up early and don't want to have to tip toe round our own front room to try not to wake them.
I am currently 30 weeks pregnant. I plan on keeping the baby in with me for at least 6 months or until whenever I feel he is ready to go in to his own room.
My question is, and it's just out of curiosity, how would you deal with the bedroom situation?

So @welshweasel you're suggesting that ds should never have his own room? Surely that will make him resentful of step siblings who have a room at their mums and rooms at his. It's only 12 nights a year and there is still one room free.

Partitioning second bedroom for SC is the best idea. If it's a standard semi the room will be easily big enough.

Baby with a 9/10 year old is a bad idea.

When my DS was born he took SDs bedroom(as its jus next to masters) and we made her a smaller bedroom in what used to be an office downstairs. She loved it but she was 14 at the time. She got an option of sharing with the baby but preferred not to and thank god for that!.

Glad you’ve found a solution, OP.

My ex told our DS about two years ago that when him and his DW have a baby, it will share with DS if it’s a boy and share with his NRP DD if it’s a girl.

My DS 13 stays at least 10 nights per month inc school nights, whereas his DD 14 stays about once every 6-8 weeks.

Hence, my DS is not looking forward to a new baby announcement and I certainly won’t force him to stay if that’s to be the arrangement.

I would partition the bigger room and give baby its own room incase baby wakes alot in the night which is more than likely.

I think SC would kill each other if we partitioned the room 🙈 they have a love hate relationship, 99% hate 1% love.
If SD even so much as looks at SS room he spits feathers, they can't be left in a room alone together without SD ending up crying. It's half her winding him up and half him being OTT and giving her crafty leg or arm jabs. Kids ay!

Plus baby will be kept in with me until I'm ready to let him go anyway and he's in a decent enough sleeping pattern, he could be a dream and only wakes once with stirring or nocturnal and a screamer. Who knows! Can't wait to find out.

He might also be like mine. Started sleeping MUCH better in his own room. Transferred him there at 4 months and it was the best decision. He is a very noisy sleeper and we were waking each other up. We went from 5-6 awaikings to 2-3 per night. Major improvement.
You need the option!

If my baby shared a room at that stage it wpuld have been a nightmare.

If you partition the room they will both have their own space...

Could the baby not share with their brother or sister (same sex) after the 6 months.

Op - you are being pragmatic and sensible.

Like I said - sheer nastiness from some people on here. The age gap is going to mean this will be an evolving situation which you seem to get - but the nasty SM cohort do not.

It is only 12 nights per year someone said - I would stop there, that is more of a travesty than anything else.

@WhiteCat1704 I hope so that sounds lovely lol. I only ever hear of trouble once kids go in their own room. My friend let her daughter sleep in bed with her once because she had a nasty virus, it's been a year and a half since and she still wakes and screams all through the night to get in bed with her.

I think when the time comes I'll put baby in with SD, as she's excited about it now anyway, and like someone else mentioned, by the time he is 4/5 and possibly wanting his own big boy room SS will be 17/18 and be more interested in going out with friends then staying here, could move SD in to box room then. It's only one night a week they will need to share so not the end of the world, plus it will probably be exciting for my boy to have a sleep over with his big sister on Saturday nights. I'm sure he will love putting make up on and dressing up

What about swapping SC rooms over so SS has the larger room - then when baby is ready both boys are sharing ? That way as SS gets older and spends less nights with you it will just naturally become your DS room. You could re decorate both rooms (not ideal right now I know) but might help with the swap.

Maybe dependant on sex of your baby they share with either same sex SC. Or new baby shares with your SS until he is old enough to need his own room (puberty etc) and go from there. X

Sorry I just want to point out to Grinchy that the SCs staying weekly would mesh 52 nights a year... not 12. 12 would be once a month.

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@Winosaurus I said 12 nights because the op said dsc only sleep in their beds once a month.