Did you take DSC on honeymoon?

[sadandanxious]

Just that really. If you did / didn't what were your reasons?

Whatever problems you're trying to avoid will only be there for your church blessing anyway, whether that's before or after you go away.

This ^^ is precisely why we're rethinking of just celebrating with DSD upon our return and fuck everyone else

I'm confused as to why you bothered to ask for opinions.

Tbh your attitude is a bit shit.

You are clearly going to do what’s best for you and that’s that.

Just don’t post and expect everyone to agree

chipscheesentomatosauce Exactly.

Do you also think that it would be entitled and pathetic for your stepdaughter to be upset about not being included in her father's wedding?

The more I read this thread, the more I think that getting married without her would be a pretty shit thing to do.

DH and I got married just the two of us. Second time for both of us, we have my DS (8) his DS (7) and our joint DD (2) and none of them were at our wedding. We wanted it to just be about the two of us making promises to each other without the distraction of three bored children to deal with. They weren’t in the least bit bothered at being excluded. We have complicated families on both sides for different reasons and felt it was easier for us to deal with this way. We had a big party later with friends and family and they loved being part of that, but it was very informal so none of the family drama we wanted to avoid. The boys made a little toast, wasn’t a dry eye on the house!
We went on honeymoon without them too, and they weren’t bothered about that either.
There are plenty of ways of making your DSD feel included and part of your family which are nothing to do with a wedding/honeymoon.

5had03 Tbh your attitude is a bit shit.

Right... okay so I have a shit attitude for both DP and I having a very different view of marriage to a lot of people. Sure...

Broomstick you're totally entitled to that view.

But I'm not sure how it's a bit shit that I said we'd involve DSD in the after celebration and fuck everybody else? Aka celebrate with DSD and nobody else?

Thank you caledonian sounds like you did what was right for you both and it worked out great.

You are being very rude to posters who are doing what you asked: giving their opinion.

camper most people aren't just giving their opinion. Giving their opinion would be to say something like
"I think you should do xyz"

What people are actually saying is do xyz - or words to that effect.

So I apologise if I said the pp was pathetic and entitled, I should have said I think it's pathetic and entitled.

No it’s not about your views being different. It’s about your attitude and the way you’re replying to people who DO NOT have the same views as you...

... that’s what’s a bit shit!

Actually very shit!

IMO the only child that should be allowed on honeymoon is a developing foetus as a result of the honeymoon

Taking the kids with you is a holiday, not a honeymoon

IMO the only child that should be allowed on honeymoon is a developing foetus

Haha that made me laugh How about a developing foetus made before honeymoon but undetected until afterwards?

I was left out of my DF and DSM’s wedding. It felt like a snub not to be involved in one of the most important moment of their lives.

My DD was at our wedding. Our ‘honeymoon’ was a day trip to Bournemouth, followed by all 3of us going abroad together a few months later.

I can’t imagine the most important person in my life not being with me when I committed to the second most important person in my life.

OK, I think that you and your soon to be H would be very very wrong not to include his daughter in your wedding. I think that it really isn't about just the two of you because he has a child already so every decision he now makes until she is an independent adult, affects her. I know that isn't perfect for you but I think that is the reality of marrying a man who has a child from a previous relationship.

Well done for following the OP's roolz for the thread Hedda. I'm pretty sure you will still be wrong though

Oh do fuck off bastard. I've no problem with people expressing an opinion. What I do have a problem with is people dictating how other people should lead their lives.

IMO the only child that should be allowed on honeymoon is a developing foetus

Haha that made me laugh

Of course it did. They agreed with you.

Seriously what's your problem? if you don't like my responses why keep responding? Or are you that bored?

It was just the way it was written rather than the fact it agreed with me, it just tickled me. Honestly if I found out I was pregnant before eloping there's no way we'd not take DSD. There's no way we could take one and not the other - even though the foetus would have no concept of being there. Jeez I'm not a completely heartless fucker just because I have a different view of marriage (let's face it, it's the marriage that's the most important part, not the wedding)

Seriously what's your problem? if you don't like my responses why keep responding? Or are you that bored?

Works both ways....

Except this is my thread.

Not bored, just an insomniac. Believe me, I'd much rather be asleep right now.

😂😂😂😂😂😂

In the early year my bf and I were talking about the honeymoon of our future and he said " Can we take DD?"
I . Was. Crushed. that he even said that to me!!
Was that a red flag I should have not ignored!?

I'm never number one and even on my honey moon I'll be number two.
We are getting married (The wedding has been pushed back cos we have so many problems - all step related)

* I meant DSD - I'm new to the lingo

This thread has gone all wrong because it shouldn't have been posted here. It's not really about DSD, it's about eloping and the implication in relation the family.

Your dilemma is no different to most people who decide to elope because they don't want to the stress of spending what should be the most special day with people who are making it difficult to enjoy it. Your issue is that the only person you would consider is your DSD, except that firstly, if you took her, everyone would then know and that would again make it stressful, and maybe a bit of the logistics because you would have to look after her and it would not make for the most romantic honeymoon.

If the above is correct, I think my choice would be to marry secretly in the local council offices with DSD only and then go on your honeymoon the day after. That doesn't solve your issue about wanting a church wedding though.

sadandanxious fair enough you don't agree with marrying into their family (as I said in my post some people may not agree with that, it was only my view).
But everyone who's offered you their opinion, either from personal experience or not, has been shot down
If you want to go abroad and marry because the wedding is only about the two of you making a commitment then do that. I don't see what was to be gained by posting on here and asking for people's opinion when you already seem to have it set in your mind.