My DP and I are planning to live together later in the year and currently saving for 4 bedroom house.
I have DD and DS, he has 2 DDs.
Bedroom set up will be our room, DS in the smallest room, his 2 DD (8 and 12) in the second biggest room and my DD 7 in her own room.
Eldest SD has kicked off saying she wants her own room and SD 8 and DD 7 should share so she can have her own room.
Now there's several reasons why I'm putting my foot down about this...
Firstly SDs have their own rooms and private space and belongings at their mum's house. This bedroom will be my daughter's one and only bedroom (no contact with father) and I think she's entitled to her own room and things that are solely hers just as SDs are at their mum's.
Secondly SDs already share a room at DPs house - only 2 bedrooms and there's never been an issue with it in the 6 years they've lived there.
Thirdly they'll be getting a bigger room and more space anyway so they'll still have a lovely bedroom that it all theirs when they're with us (2 nights a week).
Fourthly my SD 8 wants to share with her sister as that's all she's ever known and what she's comfortable with.
But SD 12 is really kicking off about it, saying if she doesn't have her own room she's not moving.... now at first I was very sensitive to the fact that she's growing up and bodily changes etc but now she's saying she won't move from the house they're in (where she shares) if she can't have her own room?
And threatening never to come over which is obviously upsetting DP.
He is totally on my side - as are other 3 kids with the room set up.
What do I do about this?