Greetings. This is my first time on this site. I have a DSS (11 yr) and a DSD (9 soon to be 10). I have been involved in their lives for 4 yrs now. 2 yrs ago, their mom abandoned them - did not want to pick them up one day. My DP and I had a hard time counseling them through their sadness and re-arranging their lives (new school, etc). Their mom had a drug problem that went from bad to worse. 5 mos ago, she came back, wanting to be a part of the children's lives totting her newborn in tow. We are seeing a child specialist regularly. However, my DSD is acting out "I hate you; I never loved you; you are pathetic"... she claims that I ruined everything btwn mom and dad. I met my DP well after the fact. Mom kicked DP out for her new boyfriend to move in...I am at a loss. My DSD and I used to always have 'girl time'. Now, she won't even look at me or speak to me. I am grasping at straws trying to understand. Sorry for the long rant...