Ever taken a break and gone back?

[HesNotAMessiah]

hi,

Really struggling with DP To find where I belong while family is ripped apart by DSD and her Teenage antics.

I've tried being supportive only to be told it's nothing to do with me.

I've tried doing nothing only to be lashed out at along with the other DSC.

Moving out and letting them sort it out is the easiest option but I'm worried it'll destroy all of us and there'll be nothing to go back to.

Unless you're being put in real danger, I would advise you not to move out.
If you move out when things get tough you'll set a precedent to keep doing it in the future. Eventually, the DSC will learn that if they don't like something you do, they can just bully you until you move out.

Also, I think 'finding' where you belong in a blended family is often about 'choosing' where you belong. The role you play in this family is your choice and it's your partner's responsibility to support you in your choice.
If he doesn't, your problem lies with him, not the DSC's antics - they're just highlighting the original issue.

If you move out it would be very hard to move back and there would be a lot of hurt all round.

Parenting teenagers is hard, and can make you feel unloved, undervalued and pretty shit. Parenting step kids is even worse. I have 3 teens in the house. Both my DH and I agree on this. We both allow the other to step away from the step kids when we need to and we manage our own kids.

Just remember it does not last forever, it will change and you need to pick your battles. Whatever you do will be wrong, so choose the response that works best for you.

Good luck.