bedroom size argument

[TiredofCompromise]

I am so fed up of all this crap. DH and I have been looking for a new house for 6 months that we can afford and is big enough for us. Well, yesterday we found it and loved it. But....today I made some innocent comment about bedroom allocation for the children. We have 3 together and he has a son from previous relationship. His sone doesnt live with us and stays every other weekend (which I just about tolerate btw).

Anyway, silly me assumed that we would allocate bedroom sizes in order of age of OUR children and that his son would have the box room for eow. DH seemsto think we should do it with his son getting the biggest and so on.

well,I'm really pissed yet again with this. What 10 year old needs a huge double bedroom that he stays on twice a month? He only has a box full of toys and flaming pyjamas here anyway. Total waste od space. I tried to compromise with DH and said well, that bedroom would be the 'spare room' and decorated accordingly but not good enough either.

I'm so sick of my kids getting the raw end of the deal when they are the ones with us full time. They've been sharing a room btw while lord and master gets a room to himself thats empty 90% of the time.

DH and I have reached a stale mate and I've refused to put in offer on perfect house until its resolved (ie....DH agrees with me).

How do others resolve these issues?

But that's just it Caligula, it's the guilty before being proved innocent bit that gets me. We stepmums sometimes do not automatically like our skids when we first meet them, exactly the same way as what might happen when you meet anybody new, but we try obviously to welcome the child into our home/lives as 1) they are children and 2)do come as part of the package. However, at times, for whatever reason and despite one's best efforts the relationship just doesn't take off.

miao, of course many sm's bend over backwards to accomodate the children of their partners (sometimes to their own detriment tbh) and I've got nothing but respect for those who do, but I can't see any evidence of the OP trying to welcome her SS into her home. She describes him as having been a rather unpleasant child from the age of a year old.