My sister has just announced her engagement, they've not booked the wedding yet but she's warned us that they're looking at getting married abroad summer 2015, possibly Turkey or Cyprus.
I'm so excited for her but I'm really worried about how we're going to afford a foreign holiday with not all that much notice.
She doesn't expect us to go and would understand if we couldn't afford it but I wouldn't miss it for the world.
Oh and she's a teacher so it'll be in the school holidays, yes that's great that we don't need to take the kids out of school but not great as far as the cost is concerned.
I can do some overtime at work and we can reign in our spending and if necessary put some costs on the credit card, and my parents will probably help us out a bit so we'll probably manage it but realistically there's a big difference between paying for 4 of us (me, dh and our 2 dsc) or paying for 6.
DH thinks we should go without DSC, they're already going on a foreign holiday with their Mum next year but I know we would never hear the end of it from her, she is very critical of anything we do / don't do. And more importantly I'm worried about upsetting DSC. DSD asked a few months ago if we could all go abroad and we said we can't afford it, I just think it will now look mean if we go without them.
DSC hardly know my sister, she doesn't live locally so they only usually see her about twice a year.
My own DC are quite close to her though as we (me and DC) often go and stay with her for a few days in the school holidays and they're always speaking to her on Skype.
We usually take DSC camping for 2 weeks during summer holidays but I don't think we will be able to afford to do that as well as the wedding holiday, we might manage a long weekend or a week at the most.
I could go to the wedding by myself but I would miss DH and DC and my sister wants them to be bridesmaid a page boy, we've never been abroad together, not even just me and DH so it would be lovely if we can make it happen.
Part of me thinks it's mean to not take DSC but paying for 2 extra children will probably make it unaffordable and we would probably have to not go or I go on my own.
So then I think it's not fair that my children have to miss out on going to their Aunty's wedding because we can't afford to take DSC who are already going on a foreign holiday.
It's just so frustrating, we can't win what ever we do.
Like I said, nothing is confirmed yet, so we could just be worrying over nothing, fingers crossed they'll realise how expensive weddings are and move it back 12 months. But I'm just interested to hear what others would do?