Sorry this is my first post. Just need to talk to some people anonymously. As so much is secret in real life
so. I love my DP and DSD more than anything. I love being with them. DSD lives with us full time.
Me and DP met 3.5 years ago when he was still with his ex, me and him were close friends. He confided in me about his terrible, sexless relationship then our friendship turned into more. He had just started a business with this woman he apparently didn't love. We started seeing each other in secret. He told me how much he didn't like her over and over. Then he tells me she is pregnant! He was adiment he didn't want the child and she was conceived before we started seeing each other the one time they had sex in almost 4 years. We planned to leave together at Christmas that year, that changed to new year, then april (my birthday). We didn't leave until November...by which time we had been secretly seeing each other for 16 months whilst I had to stand by and watch him play happy families with his ex.
By the time we finally moved away together I had met DSD 3 times. I didn't want her in my life, he was obviously besotted with her by this time so I agreed she could stay two days a week. Over the six months we were away I fell in love with this little girl. So we move back to the region decide to have DSD for the first week...6 MONTHS later she is still here, I love her as if she was my own and love her being with us, her mum has had her probably 7 days in 6 months. She always makes excuses not to. DP is always telling me he hates her but I also see things he texts her and he talks to her about the things he should tell me. And on top of all this she still doesn't know that we live together. It had been over a year and he has just told her that we are seeing each ether but said it has only been since May of this year. I do all the mum things for DSD but she gets to be called mum. And he still talks to her as if they are a couple.