hello there , I met my husband knowing he had a child , we got custdy of his daughter when she was 5 every thing was great until she was about 10 she started becoming distant towards me , I would ask her father to help he just says its between me and her so on a lot and I mean a lot of occasions I have had a chat with her to ask why she doing it , she just shrugs her shoulders and says I don't know and walk away . well now she is 16 and things have got a whole lot worse she will not talk to me at all and if she does something wrong (ie caught her smoking) I will tell her off (like I would my own children) however if I tell her off she will secretly messege her dad and tell him I was screaming at her and I make her feel not wanted . I treat her no different from my other kids ( 9, 10 , 12 ) I just don't know what I have done wrong and why she is suddenly giving me the cold shoulder can anyone give me advise and im slowly sinking and feeling really hurt ...
she doesn't see her birth mum she hasn't since she was 5 ( thts her mums choice )