the film stepmom

[wheresthelight]

am sat watching for the first time in years and always thought it was quite funny before if a little creepy that the mum is coaching her kids to hate the stepmum but it is shit like this that makes some people think they have a god given right to attack us and portray us as evil bitches.

grrrr I used to like this film

I asked that question again in response to your post at 14:55:17 Wakey

I'm not convinced the death of the mom was intended to be linked to the abuse she inflicted, though.

Also when you quote me please do so in context.

In fact to a child it shows the consequences of her actions to be death by cancer."

Was in response to your post

Unless the movie clearly makes the link between "consequences" for the Mum as a result of her behaviour, then DCs who are subject to similar abuse will resign themselves to the fact that's just how "moms" behave.

You feel that a child will think bad mom behavior is ok. I was responding by saying a child will probably see her death as a consequence of her actions. A CHILD not me.

I just wondered what more was wanted from the character, and what would have satisfied you

In the movie? Nothing. It's a movie. I said waaaay up thread that I didn't expect it to be any different.

In society, generally, though - I'd be satisfied if there was the same reaction when emotional abuse of children is portrayed in a movie as when physical abuse is included in the storyline.

I'm not sure that makes me a bad person, although yes, I probably am flogging a dead horse, in my lifetime, at least.

At least no one swears at you, calls you a troll and/or orders you off the thread wakey. Looks like the SP board has made a real change for the better recently . Nice breath of fresh air.

I went to see Al Murray last week.

In his show he uses the audience and their stories. One young boy (16) was with, as Al found out, his Dad and Step Mum. Al got the boy to turn to his SM and say "You ain't my fucking mother you can't tell me what to do!" He then got the WHOLE AUDIENCE to shout out the sentence at the woman too.

Mortifying. Felt so sorry for her.

You are annoyed by fictional child abuse in a film, whilst defending a stepparent emotionally abusing a real 6 year old child on another thread. I used to quite like your posts in your old usernames, I didn't always agree with your views but they were generally well considered and thought provoking. Now I think you just enjoy goading, it's a shame.

Wakey you change your tune more than my ipod.

Your first post on this thread

It certainly supports the theory that the vilification of stepmums is accepted by society.

Can you imagine the outcry if the same movie had been released in which the mum was coaching the child to hate a grandparent, aunt or cousin, purely on the basis of her personal dislike? But because it's a stepmum, it's ok.

Is life imitating art, or art imitating life?

You mention nothing of child abuse only your annoyance at the SM bashing.
Then it was pointed out by quite a few posters that the movie actually shows the SM in a positive way so now you make out it was all about the ignoring of child abuse.

Was this the 'pub landlord' blossom? No matter how many people tell me he's 'ironic', I just don't get it. Sounds crass to me.

Now I think you just enjoy goading, it's a shame.

You are not the first to think that.

whilst defending a stepparent emotionally abusing a real 6 year old child on another thread.

Oh dear.

It looks like it's not all changed for the better, Nicki - it seems that dragging other threads into the discussion is still acceptable.

Report my post then. You are defending an abuser on another thread, I think it is relevant as it directly contradicts your views on this one. If MNHQ feel it is inappropriate they can delete it.

It's not dragging other threads up though Wakey You cannot beat on about child abuse in movies on one thread while advocating it on another. It diminishes your credibility and means posters cannot take you seriously.

Actually the only way to describe it is a badly made sock puppet. Two different stances on the same subject yet failure to NC.

Not dragging other threads into the discussion is something you seem quite fond of Wakey I have had to pull you up for it a couple of times myself.

You cannot beat on about child abuse in movies on one thread while advocating it on another. It diminishes your credibility and means posters cannot take you seriously

I appreciate your concern about my credibility, flossy

Sorry, dragging other threads not, not dragging

At least one of us is concerned Wakey as Bas already pointed out she used to think your posts were thought provoking. Now she thinks you are goady. Not the first time somebody has said that to you on a thread is it?

Not the first time somebody has said that to you on a thread is it?

I'm in good company

Goading is against the Talk guidelines, isn't it?

It is however it takes posters to report it to bring it to MNHQ attention.

Personally I'm not big on reporting ( obvious trolls aside) and would prefer instead for the poster to stop once it has been pointed out. However Wakey if you feel you cannot stop being goady without a MNHQ intervention I will report you as part of a rehab measure.

Hmm. I totally agree wakey, I don't know your child (which is why I said most). I suspect movies are never going to be produced with each individual potential viewer in mind (especially those barely born at the time and who are still too young to watch). Perhaps, in your particular case, you are right. Happy now?