Just wanted to say a big thank you to everyone for all the ideas! Looms was a big success it turned out it's exes birthday this weekend so we made cakes and a box to put them in and went shopping for cards and some flowers.
There was a major drama with MIL trying to interfere offering to buy her clothes then asking her to choose if she wanted to spend time with her dad or clothes shopping - of course went for clothes but only for two hours much to OHs fury..
Anyway had a good chat about acess/ baby showed her the baby room thought would try being direct instead of skirting round the issue. She was more receptive than usual said we will go and choose coming home outfit from hospital on our own like a girly thing - seemed receptive.
She has agreed that she would rather come every other week to be confirmed by Friday so all know what's happening to try and stop tensions about changing her mind at last minute etc..
Turns out exes oh has told her off and she doesn't want to go there at weekends anymore hence the u- turn about wanting to come here the last few weekends she's been at grandmas who can't do it anymore..
All in all quite a success ex even text to say thank u- world first maybe harmony is on it's way...?!! Or maybes that's a bit ambitious but I'm relived we are all talking again and she's actually giving opinions on coming here so maybe we will get somewhere...! Spent majority of time with me not dad but I think that's how it will be at the moment they don't seem to have any common ground fingers crossed it's a teenage thing..!