Head is in a mess..

[StinkysMum]

Trouble with DH and DS. My DS is 8 in October and my DH seems to have control issues where HE HAS TO BE IN CONTROL. If i tell my DS to do something, within 30 seconds DH is right on his case, moan, moan, moan, moan. I watch these shows like Supernanny and my son is a freaking angel compared to those children. He is a wee bit lippy and he can get a strop on at times, but 99/100 hes good, but my DH can't see it and only picks at the bad points. I've been with DH since my son was 3.5, so this isn't anywhere near a new problem and i hate being in the middle. Sometimes i do feel that i would be better off on my own with my DS, because i was raised with a step-father who to be honest isn't a lot different to how my DH is with my son and there is STILL tension within the family now and he's been married to my mum for 26 years!!!! We argue about it all the time and i can't see anyway to change it.

Stinkysmum, you know your dh may not even realise he's doing it !!

Discuss it with him. Apart from him being on ds's case sooo much, it is also undermining you a bit, as in dh gives the impression that ds won't do what you say unless he backs you up.

If he won't believe you that he does it (lots of men don't), then stick a camcorder (or just a cassette recorder) in a corner of the room one day when you're all at home, then let him hear himself later.