I wonder what their step mum thinks?

[yoyo27]

We all often sit on here with the same gripes about out step children.....they don't help, don't tidy, are rude, eat junk etc etc.

But I wondered today....I wonder what the step mum of OUR children thinks of OUR babies?

I'd imagine the same thing because 9 times out of 10, it's just differences in parenting styles and not necessarily anyone doing anything wrong (and that's what I tell myself when I can feel myself getting wound up). Well, that's what I think and know I would remember all this if my DH and I split and my ds had a SM

Well they would think they are perfect, because they are

^^ I like that answer better

Of course!

My children don't see their dad (his choice) so don't see their step mum, and I think my children are amazing, and wondered if she would have the same issues with them (if she saw them) as I do with my step children

My DCs stepmum doesn’t have her own kids so I think she struggles more than I do. I know she resents having them EOW and they have been trying for a baby for a year or so without success which I think makes her resentful too.
I think she gets on well with DS2 who is 11 and very outgoing and finds DS1 who is 14 a bit of a challenge as he is very introverted and shy and resents her for many reasons.
She may get fed up with the untidiness and chaos that two boys bring to her ‘showhome’ house BUT she can’t have any issues with their behaviour at all. My ex and I are very strict on manners and politeness and he is definitely not Disney at all (he’s a lot stricter than I am in fact!)
I have met her a few times and she is nice enough, but from what the dc say she is very domineering and a bit of a control freak!!!

DDs sm thinks that dd doesn't do enough helping at their house and is getting a bit fed up of the grunting in plsce of actual answers now that hormones are hitting.

Sm and I are actually very close and I encourage her to get dd up off her bottom a bit more (we gang up jokingly on my ex about it too, he is a great dad but this is his one tiny downfall), and sympathise hugely with her over the grunting

I also know she finds dd to have wonderful manners, always does as she's told, you can take her anywhere, has a wicked sense of humour, and works very hard at school.

Sm is often saying how these are because of DDs lovely parents, I bloody love her and am a super proud aunt to her and ex's baby ds

If my dh's exw is on here...

I love your dd to tiny bits, she's a great girl and you should be proud of her... It's you I don't like! Lol