Things you'd really like to say to parents but can't.

[Tiggywinklespinny]

As dsd mother it should be YOU instilling a sense of worth and confidence in her, not weeping all over the place because your relationships don't work out. Or telling her she's a cow and a bitch.

She's at times difficult because both you and her dad have failed to create boundaries, she doesn't feel safe. You can't work her around your cocktail hour and I loathe everything you stand for.

I don't care what you think about me, I care only that dsd is given a safe home, secure boundaries and a feeling she is loved. You got pregnant on purpose, desperate for a baby and now your baby is almost a teen you can't be arsed.

Sort. Your. Shit. Out.

Sorry baby hit send lol

Offered the choice to use cutlery or eat off on the floor with the dog

Trolls, I was the WSM because I wouldn't let DSD go out in Disney princess dress up shoes, they didn't fit, were too high and she had them on with short shorts!

She was 6

I am wsm for the cutlery issue, not chewing with their mouths wide open, refusing to cook different meals when I know perfectly well they like what has been presented to them (eat or go to bed now hungry has been a god send) and because I make them pick up their own stuff and wipe their backsides themselves... Oh yes at 10 dss cannot clean himself up after having a poo

My dss (13) is a truly lovely boy and will be a fine young man. Dsd (7) on the other hand...!!

Both of mine are spoilt and very entitled but dp and I are determined that they will grow up better than they have do far and hope they will become lovely young adults etc

Dd on the other hand will learn from a very early age what is expected in terms of manners etc

Childish I know. But it's my own space away from her

Not childish at all. It's your one place where she shouldn't be a part of. It's a place for your and DH's blended family.

I remember when DH and I bought our first home together. His ex asked him for a tour of the house!

That's how we feel so I am glad I am not the only one!

It's all a bloody minefield isn't it

Hobin, I think I remember that, did you post about it? I definitely remember an ex wanting a tour!

I'm so fucked off (again) with DH right no I really feel like just leaving. Again. Honestly, how much can someone take. I need to take my own advice and draw a line. The sk (or, at least the dynamics of it) are killing is. And I no longer care.

Sorry for the hijack rant

Stop abusing my DH, give him the parental rights he's due before you get your sorry arse in court, social services don't even want you to see him so just give up.
I know you don't want him because for the last 5 years you have still taken the bloody money for maintenance yet he lives here and you can only cope with 6hrs max a week, you are in it for the money and now and in big trouble... again this isn't my DH fault you greedy cow!!! I wouldn't object at all if you spent a penny on your kid but all of the £500pm goes on you!!! He hasn't even a pair of socks at your house let alone shoes/jeans etc.
Your lack lies have brought SS to your door NOT us, you can't claim for a kid that doesn't live there and when the police raid your house and said kid is registered as being with you then the game is up!!!!
DH please stop over compensating, your son now lives with you and he is bloody naughty/devious and tells lies, he does this because he was taught this by your ex and you have never pulled him up on this, also DH he drinks, smokes etc and you still think he,s an angel, wake up and parent him as you have a year or so and it will be to late!!
And stop feeling guilty she got pregnant within 3 weeks of being with you and you stood by her, looked after your son and stepped up.

And breathe...

Mums pm me if you need a chat xx

Mums, haven't posted about the ex wanting a tour before. Somebody else's ex wanted a tour too??

Must be the norm to show all ex's the inside of your house (or so they like to think). I mean they like to think they have a say in everything else in your life - right down to how you should be raising your own kids.

That might have been me under a different name.... exw was GIVEN A FUCKING TOUR of MY FUCKING HOUSE when I wasn't here Including my bedroom. Don't even get me started on what I want to say to her!

Oh my life that takes the bloody biscuit

That was 3 years ago and I'm still angry about it!

Not surprised hun!!! I would be seething!!

When exw walked in I went fricking mental at dp and told him if she ever had the nerve to do that again i would personally eject her cheating lying self out and it would not be pretty

Offered the choice to use cutlery or eat off on the floor with the dog

Talisa, I would still be fuming too if DH's ex was given the tour -especially our bedroom. What was your DP/DH reason for actually allowing it? (if it was he who gave the tour). If it was your partner I hope you gave him a good chewing about it too!

It was after a 6 month battle over the use of cutlery

And in my defence I wouldn't actually have done it but was getting really fed up with all meals being considered finger food

When exw walked in I went fricking mental at dp and told him if she ever had the nerve to do that again i would personally eject her cheating lying self out and it would not be pretty

Makes you think though don't it - what would her reaction be if you did the same at her house? I know for a fact DH's ex would throw a right barney! Not that the thought has ever crossed my mind about entering her house. It's not my place so couldn't give a rats arse.

The danger is that the DSC will remember you saying it. Keep a voodoo doll of the exw in a kitchen cupboard with a pack of enormous pins for those sorts of emergency situations? Email her 'helpful' articles?

(But you can't say things like that to children)

hobin she would have had a complete shit fit!! I have had stood on her doorstep in freezing cold heavily pregnant whilst waiting forth kids together ready, 2 days after being admitted to hospital with hg and stood out in 3ft of snow to collect the kids and she never offered for me to come in and she new I was pregnant and I'll with it!!! Thank god for dp's land rover!

fide if the scruffy bitch had ever taught her kids table manners I wouldn't need to say things! I told her myself that i had said it! She laughed and said something fickle about not having time to teach them how to use cutlery!This was just before xmXmas so the kids were 10 and 8 ffs!!

Bloody phone typos sorry!!

Hobin - knowing her as I do, she would have just insisted. It was just after we'd moved in together, and she dropped the sdc off and asked to see the house that they'd be living in for half the week. She brought her new husband in as well. He sent me a text at work after the event saying he couldn't really say no. I would have said no had I been there!

I won't have her over the threshold since that day, everything is on the doorstep. She causes so much trouble in our lives that this is my safe haven from it all.