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Things you'd really like to say to parents but can't.

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Tiggywinklespinny · 27/05/2014 11:39

As dsd mother it should be YOU instilling a sense of worth and confidence in her, not weeping all over the place because your relationships don't work out. Or telling her she's a cow and a bitch.

She's at times difficult because both you and her dad have failed to create boundaries, she doesn't feel safe. You can't work her around your cocktail hour and I loathe everything you stand for.

I don't care what you think about me, I care only that dsd is given a safe home, secure boundaries and a feeling she is loved. You got pregnant on purpose, desperate for a baby and now your baby is almost a teen you can't be arsed.

Sort. Your. Shit. Out.

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littlegreenlight1 · 27/05/2014 11:58

Stop taking drugs, you're going to lose your kids. Your own family know you can't cope yet you still won't take their help, just their baby sitting.
Start putting your hands in your pockets and providing for your children instead of spending it all on yourself.

Stop lying, and stop taking the piss out of their father. They'd be better off with him and everyone knows it.

littlegreenlight1 · 27/05/2014 11:59

Oh and when dsd refuses to go to school, make her! Don't expect her dad to drop everything to do it for you. Ffs, you're 45 years old.

BigPigLittlePig · 27/05/2014 12:11

If you do choose to put her curly hair in corn rows again when on a beach holiday, please do book some time out of your day to take the fuckers out rather than deposit a wimpering, bedraggled, matted-haired 6yo on my doorstep on contact day. Thanks so much.

TheMumsRush · 27/05/2014 12:17

Teach her how to use a knife and fork, and give a healthier diet! She'd getting fat! And stop guilt parenting, you are doing them no favours

BigPigLittlePig · 27/05/2014 12:36

Don't blame a "problem with your house" when she has nightmares about vampires. After you let her watch Buffy the vampire slayer. In your house Hmm

Stop teaching her how to apply lipstick. Start teaching her how to count, read, write. Then perhaps you won't feel the need for a private tutor which you want us to pay for...

BigPigLittlePig · 27/05/2014 12:38

Don't blame a "problem with your house" when she has nightmares about vampires. After you let her watch Buffy the vampire slayer. In your house Hmm

Stop teaching her how to apply lipstick. Start teaching her how to count, read, write. Then perhaps you won't feel the need for a private tutor which you want us to pay for...

FunkyBoldRibena · 27/05/2014 12:42

Teach her to clean her fucking teeth morning and night and wash her fucking hands after going to the loo. And what the fuck were you thinking feeding her on Heinz only...she now won't eat anything if it isn't out of a tin.

Twat.

nottonightjoesphine · 27/05/2014 13:57

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TheMumsRush · 27/05/2014 14:40

That's it nottonight, let it all outSmile

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Tiggywinklespinny · 27/05/2014 15:19

Grin Mumsrush

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TheLowestFormOfWit · 27/05/2014 19:19

Why don't you mind seeing your DD so seldom?

alita7 · 27/05/2014 21:29

Dsd 1 and 2s Mum- stop using the kids as a weapon to hurt dp and stop dragging them to the pub all the time and getting pissed... AND DO NOT PUT MY PERSONAL INFORMATION (which the kids have told you, not me) ON FACEBOOK- just because I cannot see it without dps father showing me, doesn't mean it's ok!

DSD3's Mum- I really really wish I could keep her out of dsds life for good, after the abuse dsd suffered living with her, unfortunately she is still allowed supervised contact... where she is still able to lie to dsd, put her down, sending her home having informed her that she doesn't like her new hair cut and remind her that it is apparently dsds fault she isn't allowed to live with her anymore... dsds been extremely resilient through all of this but has only just started to stop worrying that we'll make her leave if she's naughty. I want to tell her to fuck off at meetings because she sits there pretending she actually gives a fuck about her in front of school teachers etc (who see through it clearly anyway) , when she obviously doesn't... she doesn't deserve to be her Mum!

swissfamily · 28/05/2014 19:04

Don't blame the four milk teeth that now need extracting on your 8 year old daughter for 'lying about cleaning her teeth'.

Don't blame the fact that your 8 year old daughter doesn't do her homework on her 'lying about having any'.

Don't blame the consistently failed spelling tests on your 8 year old daughter 'deliberately hiding her spelling book'.

Don't blame the consistent lateness to school on your 8 year old 'oversleeping'.

She does all these things in my home. And I intervene.

Zamboni · 28/05/2014 19:18

Stop blaming everyone else for the fact that DSD is getting very fat. Yes she is tall but stop pretending its normal that an 8 year old wears clothes for a 12 year old. She needs clothes that big so she can get them around her waist. No the HV, school nurse and your GP are not picking on you. Stop feeding her takeaway every night. Please take some responsibility. You have lots of support - please use it.

DPIL have done so much for you that a little bit of gratitude wouldn't go amiss. Not only contacting them as babysitters of last resort.

Oh - and stop slobbering over my DC and forcing them to kiss and cuddle you everytime you see them. If they don't want to, they don't have to.

BigPigLittlePig · 29/05/2014 09:04

Bloody hell Zamboni - no way would my offspring be kissing and cuddling the xp - over my dead body!

lazypepper · 29/05/2014 09:07

Try getting up before noon - in order that your DC do the same.

It isn't normal or acceptable to keep them up until the early hours of the morning watching movies with you. 'snuggle time'.???

shey02 · 29/05/2014 09:17

Stop hating, bitching, blaming and encouraging your 'dc' to hate their father. Call yourself a good mother....? Hate/control that's all you know. You don't know what love is. Stop bitchin about us, telling lies about us, giving my dc dirty looks when you see them. Fuck's sake, you're as ugly on the inside as you are on the outside.

Zamboni · 29/05/2014 12:59

I know BigPig. It's nice that we can all hang out from time to time, it's lovely that DSD is supported by her DM in her relationships with her siblings (she is unlikely to have any others), and they are acknowledged as siblings and lots of effort made with xmas, birthday presents etc, and this is far better than what shey experiences, but it's just a bit... much sometimes.

wheresthelight · 01/06/2014 17:50

Stop sending your kids to me with fucking nits cos you are too stupid to read the bottle that tells you to comb their hair everyday and repeat with the chemical stuff after 7 days

Stop cooking them all different dinners because this week they don't like chicken nuggets when they have them every other week

Stop letting an 8 year old and a 10 year old eat all meals with their fingers - it's slovenly and common and no it isn't how everyone eats a roast dinner

Buy your kids clothes that for them that's why dp pays you maintenance and stop repeatedly asking for our clothes to be sent to you because they have nothing to wear

Do not expect me to be all fucking smiles when you walk into my house without asking just because they key happened not to have been fully turned - use the fucking doorbell like everyone else

Stop blaming dp for the breakdown of your marriage and loss of your niace house, he didn't whip your knickers off and force you into bed with some weasel looking twerp - you did that all by yourself

I do not need advice on how to raise my dd from you. Shove your parenting books up your arse or better yet read the fuckers yourself and learn something!

Sorry needed to vent Grin

wheresthelight · 01/06/2014 18:00

And dp I am not your free babysitting service. Parent your damn kids or I will stop allowing them to come when you are not here. Because they are down right bloody rude and obnoxious as you and your twat ex have no idea what discipline or the word no is

HobinRood · 01/06/2014 18:03

Do not expect me to be all fucking smiles when you walk into my house without asking just because they key happened not to have been fully turned - use the fucking doorbell like everyone else

Shock I'd be livid. I'd feel like my safe haven was being invaded - if that makes sense.

wheresthelight · 01/06/2014 18:23

Total sense hobin! I could have bloody smacked her!! She tried to barge past me when she dropped the kids here last week so I shut the door on her. Childish I know. But it's my own space away from her

TheMumsRush · 01/06/2014 19:08

ShockShock At letting herself in!!! And totally understand the eating a roast with hands ConfusedConfused when did this become the norm?

wheresthelight · 01/06/2014 19:19

Mums it's vile!!! Having to teach them how to use a knife and fork was fun! It's grim beyond belief!! I did get to the point when they refused to use cutlery that they got offered the ch

Trollsworth · 01/06/2014 19:20

Your children lie. Repeatedly. Please CHECK that they have changed underwear, brushed teeth, and washed hair. They tell me they shower regularly but soap seems to be a foreign concept.

Secondly, we bought them Clarks shoes deliberately, because shoes that don't fit are ruining your children's feet. Two inch heels are not appropriate for a nine year old. She comes home crying about me being mean because I'm not prepared to let her injure her feet again, walking around in high heeled suade shoes in the rain.