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Things that's just irritate me

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TheMumsRush · 26/05/2014 19:23

I'll start:-
The way H speaks to his ex, it's so grovelling. He has no problem speaking to me like shit
The constant eating on access weekends, my god dsd doesn't stop eating! She's 7, she will eat crap in-between meals then have a know adult portion at meal time

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Kaluki · 26/05/2014 23:48

It irritates me that both my dsc have appalling teeth and DP still buys them bagfuls of sweets when he picks them up. Then they scoff the lot and drop the wrappers all over the house!
DSD and her constant attention seeking irritates me as does the way DP babies her. She puts on a baby voice and tries to get him to carry her - she's 9 years old!!!
Mostly though it's just the general sense of entitlement they have and the way that they expect everything to revolve around them.

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TheMumsRush · 27/05/2014 00:05

Kaulki, my dsd needs to be carried to bed, they both like it, I let then get on with it. It irritates me.

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TheMumsRush · 27/05/2014 00:06

It also irritates me that she grabs out of people's hands.

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Kaluki · 27/05/2014 00:27

She asks to be carries when we are out - she's not small either!!!
And yes to snatching things too - so rude!!!

yoyo27 · 27/05/2014 02:01

So pleased to see it's not just me!!!

My dsc's are awful eaters....well DSD is okay, but DSS is awful. Hates so much stuff, just wants burgers, pizza etc. never touches fruit.

I got fed up this weekend over dinner time. We have pizza on Fridays but as they weren't here for a change, we had it Saturday. Same type of pizza we usually have. She ate two pieces of garlic bread. To be fair she didn't make any fuss, just took her plate out. When asked why she hadn't eaten it, she said "we had pizza last night with mum, and I don't like this one".

If it was one of my kids they would've gone hungry! Instead my DP gets her some crisps and a blueberry muffin.

I had bought a cake from pudding so sliced it up. I assumed she wouldn't have any so didn't give her some. Five minutes later I feel I have been grassed up. DP went to the shop to buy her some as she hadn't had any !

Then later in the evening we are app watching telly. The kids have to sit on the floor as there are a lot of them, and a small sofa. DSD asks to get a chair. I said no, as our 19m old was running about and is a nightmare for climbing on stuff. DP said "what's wrong?" She said "I don't like sitting on the floor". I said "you haven't minded for the last three years!" So DP offers her his seat and goes to sit on the floor!

He said today that they're not happy here, and no they're not. It is because here they aren't the centre of attention, they have to help out here, we expect good manners and a tidy house! They don't get to answer back or be nasty!

CountryGal13 · 27/05/2014 09:28

Leaving wet towels on the floor! It doesn't matter how many times they're told to pick them up or who tells them, they just won't do it.

Saying 'dad' at the start of every sentence. Obviously nobody wants to speak to me.

The 12 year old taking constant 'selfies', even worse when she's using the family iPad! I think it's so sad that it's now socially acceptable for young girls to so self obsessed.

The eldest saying to my husband 'you HAVE to pay for/buy me....' and not thanking either us for the expensive gifts they get for Xmas and birthdays.

CountryGal13 · 27/05/2014 09:32

Leaving wet towels on the floor! It doesn't matter how many times they're told to pick them up or who tells them, they just won't do it.

Saying 'dad' at the start of every sentence. Obviously nobody wants to speak to me.

The 12 year old taking constant 'selfies', even worse when she's using the family iPad! I think it's so sad that it's now socially acceptable for young girls to so self obsessed.

The eldest saying to my husband 'you HAVE to pay for/buy me....' and not thanking either us for the expensive gifts they get for Xmas and birthdays.

MilksteakCharlie · 27/05/2014 10:12

Kaluki oh,the carrying! My dsd is 8 and is always doing the baby voice and wanting daddy to pick her up. She's constantly hanging off him. And if he isn't carrying her around, she's sat on his knee. I'd understand if they didn't see each other much, but she's with us 3 days a week.

She also won't eat anything remotely healthy, picks at things, hides food under her chair cushion and has a breakdown if you give her salad. Never says thank you, either.

The strange thing is, she's great when dp isn't here. She is polite, well behaved and plays well with my ds's. When he is here, she won't leave his side and whines and talks in baby language ALL. THE. TIME.

shey02 · 27/05/2014 10:13

Totally understand and relate to all of the problems here. Unbelievable, are the dsc really like this at their mom's home or is it an act, the helplessness and fussiness to test dp and I, I wonder? I guess we'll never know. I've given up trying to educate about food, dp's kids think sausages/mash/chicken korma is healthy...? But my dc wouldn't last one day in this house if they didn't eat the same as us or tidy up after themselves.

alita7 · 27/05/2014 11:08

For me because dsd 3 is treated like she's 'our' child I find it easier because I have control over things that irritate me.
But there are times when dsd drives me nuts with habits picked up when she lived with her mum, which we both try our best to nip in the bud. DP can also sometimes forget he's a full time parent and goes a bit soft or allows too many snacks etc, however most of the time I cook so I get round this by saying if I cook no one snacks before dinner unless it is a late one.

What annoys me when we have them all is how he let's dsd 1s playful rudeness go (constant challenging of things you say eg I've been there before. No you haven't. ???? But this is normally when dp is busy and she wants attention. Also how dsd 3 seems to be given special treatment by dsd 2 and dp, maybe because she's the youngest or because of her learning disabilities, I don't know but they will both sacrifice things for her all the time and sometimes she does it on purpose, the other day I asked everyone how many eggs they and she said 1 sp I cooked the amount needed and then she wanted 2 when I was handing them out so dp wanted to give her one of his! I feel like she gets all dp and Is time as she lives with us and she needs lots of care andattention even when we have the other two because of her disabilities, I think giving her special treatment and indulging her when she doesn't need it is wrong as her disabilities are not bad enough to warrant this and she'll end up spoilt! DP and I chatted about this and he agrees and has been making an effort to make sure no one else looses out.

littlegreenlight1 · 27/05/2014 11:41

Dp wants dsd to have swimming lessons. He will pay full price for this. Hurts me most because my exh pays just his maintenance and that's it. If I wanted my kids to have swimming lessons it would be down to just me. That really upsets me but I don't blame dp, he's just being a good dad, guys I'm jealous that's all.

littlegreenlight1 · 27/05/2014 11:41

On that

littlegreenlight1 · 27/05/2014 11:41

On that

littlegreenlight1 · 27/05/2014 11:41

On that note

littlegreenlight1 · 27/05/2014 11:43

Noooooo bloody phone, sorry.
On that note, he does all dentist appointment, pays for their haircuts, takes them shopping for new clothes etc. Like I say, I don't blame him for doing so, if he didn't, their mother still wouldn't. My issues are definitely to do with her neglect not his brilliant fathering.

BuzzLightbulb · 27/05/2014 11:59

Table manners, or lack of.

The inability to use a knife and fork, cut food a size that will fit in their mouths, hold on to a thought long enough to finish a mouthful before blurting it out, spitting food out, using the table as a side plate, the race to have the last of anything, not saying thank you, breaking wind at the table.

And what really gets me is never finishing a plate of food. It's like a badge of honour to get away from the table with a good couple of mouthfulls left on the plate. Drives me nuts.

Petty I know. I blame my parents [shocked]

BuzzLightbulb · 27/05/2014 12:01

Oh, and big gobs of toothpaste and toothpasty dribble all over the bathroom sink.

Don't take so much ! And rinse your spit away !!

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TheMumsRush · 27/05/2014 12:14

Speaking with a mouth full and slapping lips when eating. The melt down if you ask to help clears away the plates. The soap dodging also gets me

This is probably all kids and not just sc, but because they are sc I can't control it the same way I could is they were mine

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TheMumsRush · 27/05/2014 12:15

Buzz, the toothpaste in the sink is a classic

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ditavonteesed · 27/05/2014 12:29

well dont you all sound delightful, sounds like all these dsc's mothers are completly incompetant and they have really fallen on their feet to get such happy and positive influences in their lives, who love them unconditionally and dont bitch about them.

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TheMumsRush · 27/05/2014 12:40

Yes we are indeed a delightful bunch just letting of a bit of steam and we can't do that in RL Smile I suppose you've never done that as you are perfect Hmm

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littlegreenlight1 · 27/05/2014 12:44

In my case at least, their mother IS incompetent and I am doing EVERYTHING in my power to be the happy and positive influence they deserve. If I cant let off a bit here....
Oh and btw, I will say the exact same things about my own children should they need it.
Must be nice to be so perfect with such perfect children that you never need to let off steam!
Christ I love my children AND my dp's children and would never ever ever dream of hurting any of them. But, much as they probably tire of me from time to time - I too need a let out!!!!

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TheMumsRush · 27/05/2014 12:45

And who said I should love them unconditionally? I don't. I care for them, want them to be happy and don't want any harm to come to them.

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Kaluki · 27/05/2014 12:55

I was wondering how long it would be before someone came along to call us all horrible wicked stepmothers!!!
Took longer than I thought actually Wink
Whoever said we should live them unconditionally?? Shock My unconditional love is reserved purely for my own dc and they only get that from me and their dad!!!!
I'm fond of dsc but yes they irritate me and I would never tell them or DP that so it's good to vent freely on here with others in the same boat!!

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TheMumsRush · 27/05/2014 12:57

Yes kaluki, it took longer than I thought to. I bet the poster won't be back though Wink. Goad and run as always.

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