What I've noticed

[TheMumsRush]

If I was to pull my own ds up on behaviour no one would bat an eye lid. If I was to pull my nieces/nephews up, no bother there either. BUT if I do it to my dsc it's obviously me being unfair to them or singling them out!!!

Yes, it's not my dh either, it's everybody else who has no understanding of SPing! My sil told me to stay out of their lives (the dsc) and just enjoy them when they are here once.

One problem I had with my DSS was DH was telling me to deal with him but then didn't like how I dealt with him... go figure!

Usual story of your damned if you do, damned ...