Arrrrrr! Kids driving me crazy

[Emilyeggs]

The kids are driving me nuts today, they are arguing, annoying each other and fighting!!! I've told them to calm down several times!!
Sick of the reasons why they can't do something when asked, the answering back, so have taken to hiding in my room...give me strength! That's all

Take them out somewhere if possible. I have 2 boys (13 & 10) and when they start we go to the park with skateboards/scooters and things shift in their heads - their behaviour changes.

Realise it may not be practical sometimes!

Mine have been like that this morning. DSS(10) behaving like a 2 year old - thumping shoes together and making a racket for the sake of it and picking fights with everyone. Maybe it's the start of term or something?

Thankfully DP has just taken them all out to their drama/dance class - and the house is blissfully quite :) (and maybe some later)

DH taken them out now I'm off out with ds do everyone happy again (except dsd who got told of for back chat and now want to go home to mummy)

Thinking about this morning, I feel sorry for DH, dsd(7) can be quite cheeky sometimes (and I don't mean that in an endearing way). When she gets told off he gets told she doesn't like it heat and she misses mummy. It must upset him

*hear

Its hard for these children too shuttling between two households and two sets of rules/environments/communication styles. The primary school aged children struggle particularly; 'missing mummy' might well be short hand for missing what is familiar. A way to improve this is have very clear and structured arrangements for the children so they know exactly what to expect when at yours. Borring though it may sound if you can keep it very similar each time it will actually feel very comfortable for the children. No child wants to be in this situation so they will get frustrated and whilst its not about blaming anyone (life is life after all) its just sometimes about acknowledging that its all a bit hard!

That's true and some good points but we have been doing this eow since she was 2! It's nothing new, in fact, quite the norm

I think "missing mummy" when being told off is simply a reaction to being told off. And if she realises that it hurts your DH, she could be pushing his buttons deliberately. "I'm sure mummy wouldn't like it either if you did XXXX at hers would she?" is probably the right answer.

I don't think living between two houses makes kids play up particularly - plenty of kids with only one home can be a nightmare too!

But the start of term does mean they're getting used to a whole new set of rules, new teacher, etc in that other big part of their life. Mine were definitely all more hyper last night than usual.

Yes, thee were very hyper last night, jumping from sofa to sofa, I'm pretty easy going as that's the kind of thing I use to do but when it was still going on a 9pm then continued this morning I think DH had enough. Their mum has said she gets told dsd wants to go to dads when she's told off there! They think we were born yesterday! Lol but I think it stings more for the nrp to hear it