How do you all get on with the ex??

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Hi all
Have just been wondering if anyone has a good relationship with the mothers of your DSC? My DH's ex would rather cross the street than say hello or would just totally ignore me if she drove past or met me in tesco. We have never actually spoken. Their daughter comes to us once a week so we don't co-parent as such. This doesn't really bother me but I would rather we could be on speaking terms. Oh well, that's just her.
Anyways, her and her husband are expecting their first child together and I think it would be nice if we got the baby a present, just in the interests of being friendly and adult. I don't want to get something for it to be thrown to one side and not used because 'we' or 'I' had bought it.
Haven't spoken to DH about it, he may look at me like I've got two heads!
So, back to the question, is anybody else
really friendly with the ex??

I used to get on fine with her but now I loathe her with such venom I didn't think I posessed :( When I was 5 months pregnant with our DS she moved into the house directly opposite from me and made our lives hell resulting in me selling the house which I'd lived in for 12 years and nearly paid off and taking out a bigger mortgage to get away from her and her constant crap.

I hate DH's ex with a passion. She has done everything she can at every opportunity to make life horrible for us despite having remarried and having another DS.

When DS1 was a baby she contacted social services to claim I was an unfit mother and he was in danger. Fortunately I had a brilliant Health Visitor who sorted it all out for me.

She was often not in at prearranged pick up times meaning DSS could not come to see us.

She sent DSS for a 3 week holiday with only the clothes he stood up in despite promising to send him fully packed.

DSS however is now 16 so we fortunately need to have little to do with her now - I dread the future family occasions like weddings though.

I've lived with my DP & his 2 DSs for 15 months now (DP has custody after his ex walked out over 3 years ago because she'd started screwing someone else), and his ex hasn't said a word to me and has made eye contact with me exactly once in all that time (I normally go with him when he collects them from hers on the weekend - she has them Friday nights and every other Saturday night). I've actually had more of a conversation with her father after she got married last month and DP's ex FIL brought the boys back from the wedding reception - mainly because I thought it was important that the grandparents met the woman raising their grandsons because their daughter walked out on them) - the conversation on our doorstep lasted about 2 minutes.

I think part of it may be because before there was even anything between DP & I, I was a good friend to him & the boys, and when dropping the boys off a couple of months before we got together, DP apparently overheard his ex saying "If I heard one more word about (my name), then I'll..."(door inside closed)". Apart from the fact he says he'd fancied me for quite a while, I think that might have sold him on the idea of asking me out (joke!!).