What do you think?

[theredhen]

Half term is coming up. All of my free quality time is spent with 5 children. I will get one day off in half term, is it unreasonable of me to make this day on a day when it is just DS and me so that we can do something together?

DP seems to think I should book the day off when we have all the children so we can all go out for the day but we could do that any day any weekend (although it might mean DS has to miss sports training on a Sat morning).

It would also mean that DP would end up looking after 5 kids on his own without me if I am work, but he will be doing that for at least a couple of days anyway.

Good thinking Redhen - your DP can't have it all his own way ......

Hi Redhen, I'm new here, and wanted to respond. I feel the upset, ouch! I know its not easy for dads trying to negotiate schedules with two decision makers, but hey. It sounds like you do a lot for everyone, and also really want and need that time with your son ... and if it takes a one-way decision by DP to give you the final push, I say great, go for it!

redhen.....this is a long running "argument" between you and your DP, I take it? I seem to remember something similar last year when there was snow and you had a day off with your DS and then needed to include the others.

I don't think it's unreasonable to spend time, just the two of you, for ONE DAY over the half term break.

Your partner needs to take this on board. It's good for you. It's good for your son. It's not an indulgence.....enjoy.

Take off with your ds - its a great idea and only fair.

Told dp last night that i am not a happy lady! Am full of determination to get what i want and not just trying to keep the peace. I know i am not unreasonable in what i want, although i don't think he understands at all, unlike your dp, mj. :-(

Did your DP react badly, Redhen?

He was ok and made lots of noises about only wanting me to be happy etc. I think he thinks i'm having a wobble and i will be ok in a few days. He also starts getting defensive when i point out that his kids arent mine and i don't have to do what i do

Before i know it ds will b grown up and it will be too late to do anything about it.

I think i've realised that its up to me to make my llife happy and dp can either like it or lump it.