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[EmmaMumsnet]

Thinking ahead to a time when you will no longer be here is undoubtedly not a pleasant thought. The majority of us plan other big life events such as birthdays, weddings, baby showers and/or anniversaries down to a tee, however when it comes to funerals very few of us have detailed plans in place. If there's something in particular you have in mind, whether it’s something beautiful, something personal, or even something humorous, Co-op Funeralcare would like to know.

Here’s what David Collingwood, Head of Operations for Co-op Funeralcare has to say: “Funerals are very much about personal choice and reflecting the personality and interests of an individual. This is becoming increasingly evident through the growth we’ve seen in people choosing to pre-plan their own ceremonies using a funeral plan.”

Do you have a specific piece of poetry that you want read out by a certain someone? Maybe you’d request that all of your friends and family turn up in fancy dress? Or perhaps you already have in mind a certain song that will put a smile on everyone’s face...Monty Python’s ‘Always Look on the Bright Side of Life’ and Frank Sinatra’s ‘My Way’ are popular songs requested for funerals!

Co-op Funeralcare would like to know what your funeral wishes are, so please share them below and all who comment will be entered into a prize draw, where one lucky MNer will win a £300 voucher or their choice (from a list).

Thanks and good luck!
MNHQ

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i would like the song 'knocking on heavesn door, by guns and roses after the service. Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep Poem by Mary Elizabeth Frye is the poem i would like read. pie and mash and beer for all at the wake.

I want to be burried in woodland or a meadow in a wicker or cardboard coffin, no service or words, a single flower and no formal wake. My preference is a diy funeral from beginning to end and any money saved used for something constructive and positive in the 'effective altruism' movement.

When I was a child I always wanted to break and arm or leg. I know that sounds odd but I used to be really jealous of the kids who had a cast that people could sign their names on. So when I die I want a coffin that everybody can sign with a little message.

I really do not want any kind of funeral of any sort. I intend to donate any part of me that is of any use to the NHS then they can do what they like with the rest. I have no beliefs involving bodies needing to be respected or anything but I have a terrible fear of being in a coffin, regardless of whether I'm dead. I'd rather know that I was used for experiments to further understanding of the human condition. If my family/friends want to have a gathering themselves, then that's up to them but I will not be attending shut up in a box!

I don't want anything expensive, I'd like an eco casket & I'd like people to have fun celebrating my life not mouring my death. I want to be cremated & don't want a grave, I just want my ashes to be scattered at the top of my garden along with the ashes of all my cats who have died before me then we can be together again

I would just like my funeral not to be a financial burden and that everyone is not sad i have gone. I think some nice happy music would be lovely, if I could plan it, I would prefer to go in summer, then people could sit outside in the sunshine!

I don't mind. Whatever will bring my family most comfort.

I have decided to be cremated but I have left more or less the other details up to my DH (if he survives me) as to all the other details depending upon how old our three sons are. I want minimal fuss and just close family and friends to attend.

Nothing fancy at all - would not want money my family could use being spent on me if I am gone - they can do whatever is best for them.

Definately want to be scattered after cremation - I don't want to take up what I consider to be 'Land for the Living'

My family can do what they like as long as long as there's no religion involved (which may be difficult for my sisters) only vegetarian food at the wake and it does't cost too much!

I'd like a wicker coffin, and everyone who came to the ceremony to bring a flower to put on it or twine into it. Lovely tea and cake afterwards.

I don't really care because I will be dead, it is up to the living.

I don't have any set ideas but being a Catholic I would definitely want a requiem mass; burial not cremation; no fancy coffin or headstone though that's just unnecessary expense!

I think I'd like a natural burial, but whatever makes those I leave behind happiest.

Humanist, seems much more personal

The truth is that I've not thought about it and I think a lot of people feel the same way as it has become something in society that people don't like to think or talk about even though we all know that it is an eventuality for all of us (no-one has escaped yet!). My college friend died in a motorcycle accident and everyone wore fancy dress to his funeral - it even made the national papers! He was a great funny guy and I think he would have loved it :)

Not being religious in any way, I would opt for a direct cremation with no service, no fuss and minimum expense with possibly a low key memorial service held at a later date. I read something interesting the other day about a bios urn which turns your ashes in to a tree. That would appeal to me if the cost wasn't too prohibitive.

a celebration rather than a sad event!

I want a wicker coffin and a non religious ceremony.

I want everyone to wear black and loudly mourn the passing of the wonder that is me.

I want to be buried in case the zombie thing happens (a la Romero).

I will leave a decent wodge of cash so everyone can get pissed.

I'd like to be cremated, and have my ashes scattered in places I've loved around the world. It'll keep the kids busy travelling, at least...!!

I want to do what makes my family and children happy. I want them to feel they have said goodbye and that they are doing what they need to do whatever that may be. Everyone responds differently in these situations.

I've already sorted mine with hubby and discussed with older children, No funeral, no funeral cars just hubby and children at home having a nice family meal and having some time thinking and laughing about good times not sad and keeping memories. Ive been through it too many times to see my children go through the heartache of burying a parent or the grief as a funeral car pulls up so dont want this for my kids. My ashes I would scattered wherever hubby and children would be most happy after all I wont know about it.

I've always said I want my family to do whatever they need to to feel like they've grieved, but if it were up to me I'd go with whatever is cheapest. I hope for no flowers and instead donations to charity but of course that would be up to my family.

I like the idea of a simple funeral with an informal memorial get together later