Share your funeral wishes with Co-op Funeralcare - £300 voucher to be won! NOW CLOSED

[EmmaMumsnet]

Thinking ahead to a time when you will no longer be here is undoubtedly not a pleasant thought. The majority of us plan other big life events such as birthdays, weddings, baby showers and/or anniversaries down to a tee, however when it comes to funerals very few of us have detailed plans in place. If there's something in particular you have in mind, whether it’s something beautiful, something personal, or even something humorous, Co-op Funeralcare would like to know.

Here’s what David Collingwood, Head of Operations for Co-op Funeralcare has to say: “Funerals are very much about personal choice and reflecting the personality and interests of an individual. This is becoming increasingly evident through the growth we’ve seen in people choosing to pre-plan their own ceremonies using a funeral plan.”

Do you have a specific piece of poetry that you want read out by a certain someone? Maybe you’d request that all of your friends and family turn up in fancy dress? Or perhaps you already have in mind a certain song that will put a smile on everyone’s face...Monty Python’s ‘Always Look on the Bright Side of Life’ and Frank Sinatra’s ‘My Way’ are popular songs requested for funerals!

Co-op Funeralcare would like to know what your funeral wishes are, so please share them below and all who comment will be entered into a prize draw, where one lucky MNer will win a £300 voucher or their choice (from a list).

Thanks and good luck!
MNHQ

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I really don't have any desire to control what happens in my funeral or care how my body is disposed of as long as those I leave behind (if any) are happy. I can't quite believe that anyone will particularly miss me, though.

I would like Leo Sayers "when I need you" played at the service,and a free bar in a social club for my mourners.

When we needed to arrange the funeral of our baby dd2, we asked the coop to help. The lady who helped us was lovely but made us promises that unfortunately coop weren't willing to fulfil. Nothing elaborate, just inline with my husband's religion. They told us on the fifth day that actually they weren't going to help us and that we would need to start the whole process of finding someone to bury our baby again. Just having to tell strangers on the phone that my baby died was the most painful experience.

3littlebadgers I am so sorry to read that and I am sorry for your loss.

Please DONT wear black to my funeral !! That's not celebrating the fun, crazy memories of my life. It'd be hard but I'd want people to laugh more than crying. If possible I'd love to have -

*Everyone wearing Neon /bright colours
*Arrive by horse drawn carriage with horses dressed with bright rugs headdresses, in a turquoise blue coffin
*Funny Service in church about my life (silly things I've done etc) and pop music as sad songs/lyrics make people cry more at funerals I think

• party afterwards with bouncy castles for kids, disco, balloon race,
• To be cremated and put with my mum in a static caravan shaped box (that's the only dream I've ever had to own a static caravan for me and my 5 little ones so if I never get to own one id at least like to have my ashes in a box shaped like one )

Me and my brother's have recently arranged my dear Dad's funeral. I'd talked with my Dad before he died about his wishes, this made both of us feel more comfortable about planning his funeral. Dad wrote down what hymn he wanted and had pre paid his funeral years ago. This meant he chose his own coffin, bought his burial plot.

I was touched by his thoughtfulness, so I'm already planning my own and will pre pay it, too.

These are my wishes. I would like to be blast frozen and have my body shattered like glass ( I don't want burial nor cremation) I'm hoping this option will be available in the future. The coffin to be either wicker or wool. My shattered remains to be scattered in the local nature reserve where I love to walk my dog. If my dog is cremated, their remains to be mixed with mine.

My favourite song and not too distressing is based on the 23rd Psalm. I would like a church service and poem to be read.

People can wear whatever they want and have loads of tea and cake and sandwiches after. Family flowers only.

I'm not having a funeral. The udertaker

I want to be buried in my garden and then have an oak tree planted on my grave. I'd like to be buried with something for future generations to dig up and wonder at.

I definitely agree that funerals are for the living, so don't have to many preferences really about what would happen as I'd just want my relatives to do what made them feel good. One thing I wouldn't like is for everyone to wear black though.

That'll be undertaker
The undertakers can take me to the crem. After the cremation, my ashes will be tipped in a local river near it's source so I can pass all the places I loved on my way to the sea.
People can have a party either before or after that happens if they want but definitely no service at the crem

I'm not really fussed myself, as long as no-one mopes around!

I should like a non-religious ceremony with my family remembering funny stories with lots of laughter. I'd prefer to be cremated with the ashes scattered at sea.

A Church of England funeral service, perhaps including the hymn "In Christ Alone" and followed by cremation.

My grandmother prepaid her funeral a decade before she died. My mother helped her, but none of the other 7 siblings would as they thought it macabre. Having then gone through the process of dealing with the bereavement, they all said it made things much easier. Which was of course, what my Grandmother wanted.

For me, all my organs to be used if they can. A send off but nothing religious. A cremation, I love the idea of my ashes being made into a gemstone, but I know lots of people find that weird!

Then a good old fashioned wake with plenty of food, alcohol and reminiscing. That has helped me deal with several bereavements.

As long as I'm cremated anything else is fine with me.

Put me out with the rubbish - but which bin, normal or recyclables?

My wishes would only be that my loved ones turned up, it's really about what they want from saying goodbye to me and touch wood that won't happen for a really long time.

I wish to donate my body to science

I'd want it to be as low key and inexpensive as possible, and no grave or headstone that people would have to visit . I'd rather someone planted a tree to remember me by.

I want to be buried in a cardboard coffin, something eco-friendly.

I would like more of a celebration of life send off party clothes everyday style music and laughter and tears of happiness while I am cremated I don't want a burial

I want minimum fuss, just close family not a load of people I haven't seen for years, who are only tagging along in the hope of free food and drink. I want to be cremated and then buried with my partner (as he wishes to be buried), depending on who goes first, they may have to keep me in the house for a few years!

My husband wants no ceremony at all. If he goes, he feels I will have enough to worry about, and the last thing I need is people fussing around me, and having to go through the ordeal of a public funeral ceremony.

Humanist ceremony - it's what we did for my mum, and was so personal and moving. Cremation, with my ashes scattered at the seaside.

The whole family have talked openly about it, after we lost my mum, so although there's nothing in our wills - just the financial stuff - everyone knows what DH & I want. Although hopefully not for another 50 years!!

I would request everyone turn up in bright colours and bring along their pets.......probably make the funeral quite chaotic but rather interesting.