DS2 is 15 & has significant SEN. Autism, ADHD, epilepsy & is being referred for genetic testing at GOSH (appointment in the New Year). He is still at MS school but trying to get him transferred to SS before GCSES as he is not coping & is isolated despite school's best efforts. We Cannot leave him alone at all due to seizure risk & no sense of danger.
We also have DS17 & DS12 who are developing fairly typically. This means that of course they are doing lots of things with friends/girlfriends, as it should be. Also together as they have a shared interest. This is fantastic for them, but so hard to watch DS2 being left behind. Same is true with friends & family. Trying to organise things with the same families we have always done things with & it never quite works out as all the DC are off doing things- meaning parents can too!
DS2 does do things with his SEN youth groups, but these are daytime & others' things are evenings. So we end up going to events as adults & he is the only DC there & seems out of place. Also he can't cope with late nights as tiredness triggers seizures.
I'm sure I am rambling, but I just feel like the gap that wasn't so noticeable with smaller DC is so wide now & it hurts. I am struggling with this. Does anybody else feel the same?