AuDHD DD17 I do not know how to help now the College has shown me how useless they are

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My DD17 got 2,3, and 4s for her GCSE. I say this to provide some context. She passed her English Language but is still trying for Maths which she keeps getting a 3 in.

She needs help and guidance with her social skills and understanding tasks.

she had just started an Early years course at college and was loving it but last week was kicked off her course for “not fully engaging in her tasks”
And they did this without any warning or engagement with the SEN department.

Ok so I have a meeting with the college next week to discuss next steps but they also de registered her from Maths GCSE which she got turned away from today. My poor girl is devastated.

My question: Is there any further education setting in the UK that actually helps these adolescents rather than treat them like an inconvenience?

Does DD have an EHCP?

Some colleges are more inclusive than others.

The reason DD couldn’t attend maths is because the college’s maths resit classes are for those enrolled on a course there.

If there genuinely wasn’t at least one warning, have you complained? It would be very unusual for there not to be any warning.

What does “not fully engaging in her tasks” look like?

I absolutely have complained and no, there was no warning. There was no explanation that she couldn’t attend maths they just cut her off. To your point though the tutor for her main course emailed me late afternoon and apologised for not being clear that it also meant the same for maths, well that’s cool, when my teen is sitting in the lobby of the college bawling her eyes out. I’m expecting a call tomorrow.

My point stands though that there seems to be no place they can go that gets them on a good path and actually helps them. I’d pay if there actually was one!

There are places to support DC with SEN, but it is difficult to help if you don’t answer questions. For example, the options available will differ depending on if there is an EHCP or not.

No EHCP she was denied that as she wasn’t considered severe enough.

Have you appealed?

Definitely appeal the EHCP decision if possible. Once it goes to panel you should get some humans who make a decision based on needs/compassion rather than a LEA decision based on funding. It's completely crap, but if you can face it, try again because once she has an EHCP, it will last until she is 25yo (I think).

Could DD have had email warning which she hasn't understood or taken notice of, or failed to bring to your attention? I can well imagine my LD, AuDD DD ignoring such info unfortunately. Really poor form from the college though, you have my sympathies.

Thanks all, I take everything on board and let you know the outcome of the meeting on Monday. I really wish there was a better situation for our ND teens, feels like they are not severe enough to care about, but the next couple of years are just so so important, whether or not she finds a good path to working and enjoying it.

I will appeal the EHCP

If you haven’t appealed, do that if you are still within the appeal window. Was it refusal to assess or refusal to issue?

If the appeal window has closed, request another EHCNA and appeal if refused.

Contact your local careers service.

I still think you need to think about exactly what “not fully engaging in her tasks” look like because that will influence the way forward.

I am also going to advise EHCP, they refused to assess I went to medication. They jave issued EHCP but I am not happy with it (mainly placement) so off to mediation we go again.
When you say refused EHCP did they refuse to assess or did they refuse to issue once assessment had taken place?