This feels like discrimination

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I was talking to my MIL who was saying her DG who is in mainstream school and has low support special educational needs, has an aversion to most foods and she didn’t know if he’d ever seen a doctor about it when i asked her. I said that at my DS specialist school where most of the DC have high or very high support needs, a lot of them have similar problems with food. Her response was in my day you were often lucky to get a meal so you ate what was put infront of you. I just felt the response was different for different children .

While MIL’s view is uneducated and wrong, although sadly common, unless you are missing out part(s) of the conversation, I don’t see how she is treating different DC differently.

Well she was probably right. You used to get one meal and no other options. Takeaways apart from the Chip Shop and the Pie shop were virtually no e existent and there was no or little money for them anyway.

DC who clearly needed support were often labelled as trouble makers and put on the lowest stream at school and left without any formal qualifications.

It doesn’t mean that this was helpful for anyone though. Not for the DC involved, the Teaching staff, the other pupils or society in general. And your DM is old enough to understand that in some ways things have improved for the better.