argh help how do I explain this to ds

[phlebas]

dd1 has had an accident & is in hospital - unfortunately 3 hrs away from us.

ds is phobic about hospitals - he obviously can't come up with us. dh & I both need to go - have dd2 to worry about too. I'm picking ds up from nursery in an hour & dropping him at my mum's it will be for at least one night - he loves my mum but hasn't stayed overnight. He probably won't speak at all while he's there & no idea how she'll get him to sleep.

Don't know how to explain what is happening to him

phlebas too late I know for any advice, but wanted to say hope it's all gone ok, dd1 is being well looked after, ds not too confused.

what a horrible thing to happen, just hope it all works out for you.

posting from hospital to distract myself. dd is in theatre atm

ds was fantastic at my mum's I'm so proud of him - took 2 hours to get him to sleep but she managed. Not sure how long we're going to be away - they are talking about 48-72 hrs atm, if that's the case dh will have to go back to ds - I'm not happy leaving him that long.

oh phlebas, I hope oyur dd is ok.

Brilliant that ds settled - last time we had to leave dd1, she refused bed, and was just about falling asleep on the babysitter when we got back at gone midnight

whereabouts are you? If you are anywhere near me (Surrey) I am happy to help in any way possible.

try to get some rest (impossible I know) - your dd will need you to be at your best tomorrow.

phlebas, how is your dd today?

do let us know how everyhting is - we are all thinking of you

crossing my fingers for you Phlebas and for your dcs too

Thank you! She got back to the ward at 3am last night & is doing pretty well - will def be in until sat, hoping that she won't need more surgery.

I've managed to arrange for ds' tutors to go to my mum's house today so he'll have that consistency. DH is going to pick him up tomorrow morning so just one more night. He spoke to me on the 'phone too 'hello mummy, ds stroking the rabbit' Don't think there was much sleeping last night but he has eaten which is great.

thank you for the update, phlebas.

glad to hear that your ds is taking htings in his stride - it sunds a shtough he is reasonably happy. and tutors going over there will be good too - keep his routine going a smuch as possible (and great on the ABA side - different environment work - fantastic )

great to hear your dd is doing well - fingers crossed for no more surgery.

again, if you need anyhting, gives us a shout on here - you're never that far form an MN'er!